I say it all the time: The biggest obstacle to revelatory, life-altering, path-affirming sex is shame and expectation. So the last thing I want to do is "should" all over you about your beliefs, your values, your sex, and your vagina. (I’m pretty sure you’ve had enough of that already.) However, after working with hundreds and hundreds of women as a somatic sex coach who helps women tune into their full sexual expression, I've talked to a LOT of women about their views and opinions on sex and sexual experiences.
I create a safe space for my clients where they can feel safe exploring sexual experiences—sexual harassment and abuse but also trauma from birth injuries, IUDs, STDs and many other past experiences—and there are a few things that I really do wish women would stop believing about sex. Here are six of them that we can start with right now: