How To Handle Stress Triggered By Life Changes, From A Therapist

Big life changes and transitions can feel disorienting, even when that change is for the better. And needless to say, with the ongoing pandemic, seasonal changes, and plenty of job, home, and relationship shifts happening, many of us are dealing with a lot of change right now. Thankfully, there are techniques that can help you cope with all those changes (and the subsequent stress) in a healthy way.

On top of that, Leeds notes, change involves uncertainty. Even if we're in a better situation than before, it's still unnerving not to have that familiarity and predictability. "Uncertainty is inherently stressful for most of us," she adds.

According to Leeds, it's first and foremost important to give yourself grace and adjust your expectations of yourself. Change is rarely easy, so don't expect yourself to seamlessly adapt from the get-go, and be patient as you adjust. "Digesting and adapting to a transition uses a lot of mental and emotional energy," she explains, adding, "It's normal for things that used to feel easy to suddenly feel more difficult."

"We are more vulnerable to loneliness during life transitions," Leeds notes. As such, she recommends asking for help when you need it. "Reaching out to others helps us feel supported and makes change feel more manageable," she says. Whether you need an extra set of hands or a shoulder to lean on, "don't be afraid to ask for what you need," she adds.

Amid all the changes, it's important to stay grounded—and developing healthy, uplifting routines can help you do so. As Leeds explains, life transitions can make old habits obsolete. "Rather than clinging to what's defunct but familiar, cultivate new routines to re-anchor you," she suggests. Not only will healthy habits and routines keep you grounded, but you'll bolster your sense of security in your freshly changed life.

Whatever it is you decide works for you, "make sure that while you're relaxing, you give yourself absolute permission to let everything else go," she adds.

When it comes to change and the stress it can cause, hold to your foundation of healthy habits and routines, including those that help manage the stress itself. With that, a little patience, support from loved ones, and some self-compassion, you'll be settled into your newest chapter before you know it.