We all could use some more love in our lives, whether we're looking for a new romantic love or amplifying an existing one. But love and romance are multifaceted, and they're about more than creating a Tinder profile or buying some new lingerie.
At the end of the day, it's all about the energy you bring. My mother taught me about manifesting at an early age, and I’ve been using the practice ever since. Over the years, I've come to realize that when I clear my mind and focus on what I want, things happen at lightning-fast speed. There are lots of tricks, but one thing that most people don’t talk about is that you can—and should!—set up your home to support your manifestation efforts.
Here are some tips for designing a home that welcomes some of that loving energy we're all after. As you bring them to life in your space, remember to focus your mind on the results you want to create. Go slow, and enjoy the process!
To find love:
1. Clear the entry.
Every part of your home tells a story, but when it comes to opportunities and beginnings, your front door is the center of the universe according to feng shui. If you think about love as an energy that you want to invite in, first you need to ask yourself how easy it is for that energy to find you. Clean the numbers attached to your letterbox, make sure your doorbell works, and sweep your front step. You can even wipe your door down with an essential oil: Try rose for love, sweet orange for happiness, or lavender for calm.
2. Treat yourself to the things you love.
Don’t wait for someone else to spoil you. You can live a delicious, full life right now. Buy fresh flowers as often as you can, cook for yourself, and spritz some of your favorite fragrance on your linens. Staying self-contained and self-sufficient completely changes your energy. You’re no longer searching for a lover to be whole. You're already radiant, and you’re simply looking for someone to share the joy with.
3. Keep your space tidy.
On a purely practical note, you’re not going to want to bring that hot babe back to your abode if it looks like an episode of Hoarders. If you’re going out on a date and you think getting frisky might be on the menu, give your home a good once-over first. I can’t be the only person who is slightly turned on by the fresh scent of eucalyptus in a diffuser (although perhaps that’s my Virgo Sun talking).
To keep love:
1. Make space.
Is there room in your life for love—literally? So many of us are operating at full capacity, meaning our drawers are stuffed, and we never seem to have enough coat hangers in the closet. Let’s get real: If there’s barely room for you and your stuff, there definitely isn’t room for your lover and theirs. This principle is true on both a physical and metaphysical level. If there’s nowhere for them to keep a spare sweater or pair of socks, they’re going to feel unwelcome in your home. If you can’t create that tiny amount of space in your life, that tells us a lot about what’s going on for you emotionally. What are you still holding on to from your past? Are you really ready for love, or do you still have some opening up to do?
2. Light the flame.
Kiss the ghosts of relationships past goodbye by burning a bit of Palo Santo in your space. Imagine that you're cleaning up the energy in your life so you can fully commit to your partner. After all, you can’t dance into your future if you still have one foot in the past.
3. Make your bedroom a beautiful, relaxing place to be.
For both of you! One of my favorite tips is from Amanda Gibby Peters of Simple Shui. She says that the best feng shui practice is surrounding yourself with objects you love. It really is that simple! Arrange your bedroom so that there’s something gorgeous in front of you when you wake up, whether that’s art, flowers, or a beautiful-colored wall.
To spice up love:
1. Get aromatic.
Fragrance can completely change the vibe of a room. Add an oil with sexy properties, like ylang-ylang, jasmine, fennel, or neroli, to your diffuser and let it permeate your bedroom. Give it a couple of hours before you lead your beloved by the hand!
2. Embrace the power of crystals.
Charge your favorite stones under the light of the moon by setting them on a windowsill overnight and then place them near—or even underneath—your bed!
3. Grow a small chili plant in your kitchen.
This one may seem a little odd, but taking care of something green symbolizes persistence, and chilies are traditionally known as an aphrodisiac. Add some of your homegrown chilies into your cooking to keep your romance fresh and exciting.
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