The boiler had broken at work, and it was cold in the office. Usually the cheery chatterbox of the team, I had snapped at my colleagues. As I bent my head over my work, I could almost see the looks being exchanged and knew one of them was probably typing an email to the rest of the team saying "What is up with HER today?" My boss took me into a meeting room and asked me what was wrong.
The tears began to flow, and I poured out a story of everything being "a bit too much." She sent me home for a week.
It wasn't really that surprising that I had reached this point. On top of a demanding workload, my team at work had changed, I'd recently pulled out of a house purchase, and I had just come off birth control.
My house move made me realize just how much stuff I had. Paper bags, trinkets, jewelry I never wore, and clothes that I didn't love were all possessions holding me back from what I truly wanted. I had thought I was accumulating what I needed for when I eventually got married and had a house, but actually, it was emotional baggage that I was holding on to.
I dreamed of quitting my job and moving to Italy. So I got serious and hired a coach: It was now or never.
My coach and I agreed I would start a meditation practice. At first, I struggled to "stop thinking," but combined with reading books and blogs and with encouragement, accountability, and support from my coach, I persevered. It was after a moment of breakthrough—oh, I actually get how to do this!—that I began to feel pain in the back of my shoulders. It was a swirling, tension-type pain, usually showing up during the meditation. I read about transmuting the pain by fully feeling or accepting what was in my body, and I found that I was able to dissolve the pain. It felt amazing.
At work, some weeks later, I experienced pain in my right wrist. It was an aching pain, and it hurt to use my mouse. "Uh-oh," I thought, “RSI (repetitive strain injury)". I took a break from my desk and came back. My job involved document design, often under short deadline pressure, so not being able to use my right hand was going to severely limit my output.
I tried again, and it was still there—a shooting pain—and it was hurting every time there was movement, even just to click the mouse. I cursed my job again. I was convinced my work had been the reason I needed to start wearing glasses. Here was another sign that it was "just too much."
My body had my attention.
Not long after the shoulders and RSI pain began, a new pain in my right hip started to emerge.
What had worked to dissolve the shoulder pain was meditation. So I began to accept and love the parts of myself that were causing me pain. Previously, this practice had brought up an issue with a co-worker, who could be rather disorganized but who was passionate about what he did. When I was meditating he kept popping into my head. I had been working with him more than usual, and his turning up in my meditation practice was infuriating. Then I remembered that I'd read…"what you resist persists." I understood: I had to accept him. Once I'd learned to welcome him into my meditation and began speaking to him (in my head) with love, I found he no longer showed up. I understood that what I criticized in him was not accepting that part of me that was like him. I accepted it, and the pain began to dissolve. First, it felt stuck, then begin to move, then it disappeared.
When the new pain appeared in my right hip, I was confident I could release it through meditation. After all, it had worked before. I suspected it would take longer, though: My right hip was a ball of tension and extremely stiff. I could not make the pain release easily.
I wondered if it was because I sat at my desk at work at a slight angle. Now I believe I sat like that because of this inner tension. I was way out of alignment with myself—my Self.
After three years of meditation, personal development work, and increasing my awareness to release the pain, I write this knowing the last is releasing. I've had rest and occasional massages. I became convinced both of the power of energy therapies (reiki, EFT, and the Bowen Technique) as well as awareness of my deep issues around trust and massive fear.