3 Steps To Getting Out Of Your Own Way And Manifesting Your Best Life Ever

Remember the first time you rode a roller coaster?

You probably got in line a couple of times before actually making it to the gate. Even then, it was with Mom, Dad, or a big brother close at hand. Think of how many people let fear rob them of the pure exhilaration of cresting that first big hill, the thrill of barreling down the other side.

And when it was over, you scrambled back in line to do it again—and again and again and again!

The Oolalife is a lot like that—a thrilling ride toward la balanced, beautiful life. (As a refresher, Oola is derived from the expression "Ooh-la-la," and it is that state of awesomeness when your life is balanced and growing in the key areas of health, finances, career, relationships, and well-being.) But fear is one of seven Oola blockers we’ve seen derail dreamers. These things keep them from fully realizing what they’re capable of and destined to enjoy.

Maybe you’re deep in credit card debt and driving it higher every month to make ends meet. If you’re struggling to make the minimum payment [insert long sigh here], what’s the use of even trying?

If you’re like thousands of others we’ve met at our events, there are a hundred things are running through your head reminding you why it will never work for you.

We know what you’re going through. It’s nothing we haven’t experienced ourselves—the self-doubt, the attitude, and the old habits that can shut us down. They undermine our efforts, seeming determined to convince us that we’re not worthy of finding true joy.

Maybe you think it’s easy for us to say, "Don’t just dream, dream bigger." We’re not dealing with a cranky boss, a kid with an attitude problem that's spiraling out of control, and a schedule so tight, the only room for escape comes when you fall into bed exhausted every night.

We like that number. We have the seven key areas of life—fitness, finance, family, field, faith, friends, and fun, and we found seven blockers that seemed just as relevant.

We need to make room for the positive thoughts that allow us to realize the life we’re destined to lead. How many times has fear paralyzed you from doing what you knew was right? As President Franklin D. Roosevelt so eloquently put it, we have nothing to fear but fear itself.

Guilt (carrying regrets for things we can’t change) and the anger that triggers physical changes in us as it infects those around us are the Oola blockers that persistently chip away at our well-being. Envy is another thing that robs us of ever feeling fully satisfied.

Self-sabotage is the self-talk that masquerades as a protector. It’s the small voice that says, "Remember what happened last time you joined the gym…and never went? Are you going to throw all that money away again?"

That simple burst of courage, throwing laziness aside as you sharpen your focus on the bigger goal, does more than shut down the Oola blockers. When you put the piano you never use on eBay and use the proceeds to start building your emergency fund, the resulting sense of accomplishment will provide powerful motivation to do it again.

That credit card debt doesn't seem quite as daunting anymore, does it? In three simple steps, you’ve proven that you can, in fact, grow, change, and live the life you've always wanted. Now it’s time to take your dreams a step further by finding your Oola goal—the one thing that will bring the most positive change into your life. Summon up that courage again, confidently stepping down the path to a balanced life.