Editor's Note: For 10 years, renowned relationship therapist Esther Perel has traveled the globe working with couples whose relationships have been uprooted by infidelity. In this talk, Perel eloquently sheds light on the poorly understood topic of infidelity, which, as she points out is both universally forbidden, but also universally practiced. She answers the question, “Why do we cheat?” and offers insight about how to know whether infidelity is a relationship breaking point, or an opportunity to jolt into new possibilities.
Why People Cheat: A Relationship Expert Explains
May 21, 2015 — 15:15 PM
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Esther PerelPsychotherapist & Author
Psychotherapist Esther Perel is recognized as one of the world’s most original and insightful voices on personal and professional relationships.She is the bestselling author of Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, translated into 26 languages. Fluent in nine of them, the Belgian native now brings her inclusive, multicultural pulse to The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity (due out October 2017, Harper Collins).The New York Times, in a cover story, named Esther the most important game changer on sexuality and relational health since Dr. Ruth. Esther’s two critically acclaimed viral TED talks have reached over 16 million views in under 3 years and she has consulted on the award-winning Showtime drama, The Affair.In addition to Ms. Perel’s 34-year private practice in New York City, she is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, an AASECT certified sex therapist, a member of the American Family Therapy Academy, and of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research.Perel speaks the unspoken—articulating the hidden psychological states most people can’t yet put into words—and unearths the complicated and contradictory needs that are shaping relationships and commitment today. Learn more at EstherPerel.com or by following @EstherPerelOffical on Instagram.View the class