11 Qualities Women Want In A Man, According To Relationship Experts

Whether you're trying to woo a special lady in your life or reignite a spark that's starting to dwindle, the first step is knowing what the woman in question is actually looking for.

If you really want to know what a woman is looking for in a man, your best bet is to ask her yourself!

As Gunsaullus tells mindbodygreen, something she hears from women all the time in her own work is "how much they want their partners, their husbands, to emotionally connect with them."

A quote from the film, Daughters of the Dust, sums this one up nicely: "I wish I could find me a good man, Eula. Somebody I could depend on. Not that I’d wanna depend on him. Just to know that I could if I had to."

As Spinelli tells mindbodygreen, for a woman to really feel safe and open in a relationship, being able to count on their partner is crucial. "Therefore, they seek men who follow through on promises, show up when needed, and demonstrate consistency in their choices and actions; Reliability builds trust and stability in relationships."

A little confidence goes a long way. Distinct from arrogance, confidence is attractive to women "because it can reflect self- assuredness and assertiveness," Spinelli explains.

According to Gunsaullus, men tend to be quicker to brush issues under the rug or ignore a problem. But for women, this won't fly, and many often want their partners to display accountability when something goes wrong. "So owning the impact [their behavior had] on the other person, and then you work on it instead of justifying it," she explains.

Emotional safety is huge in relationships, and especially for many women. As Spinelli tells mindbodygreen, "Women seek men who create a safe and supportive environment for emotional expression. Feeling emotionally safe leads to the freedom to be vulnerable without fear of judgment or ridicule."

For a man to hold space for a woman to share her emotions, make room to understand her feelings, provide emotional support and demonstrate empathy when she expresses her fears, a women can then feel emotionally safe, "which ultimately creates deeper intimacy and connection in their relationships," Spinelli explains.

This one ties back to the idea of reliability, as well as accountability. Integrity is defined as "the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles," and that's a huge one for a healthy relationship, according to Gunsaullus.

Effective communication is vital for healthy relationships, point blank, Spinelli says. In her words, "Women value men who can express themselves openly and honestly, listen actively, and communicate their thoughts and feelings respectfully. This also cultivates trust and vulnerability in the partnership."

According to Spinelli, mutual respect is essential in any relationship. "Women want men who treat them with dignity, honor their boundaries, and value their opinions and autonomy," she tells mindbodygreen.

When we talk about thoughtfulness in a relationship, it's the idea that you're considering your partner when you make decisions, taking them into account in the big and small things.

Who doesn't want to spend time with someone who makes them laugh? Naturally, Gunsaullus tells mindbodygreen, some of the most fun you can have is keeling over laughing and wondering when you last laughed so hard.

And as Spinelli explains, many women value a good sense of humor especially when it’s aligned with their own sense of humor. "For women who want this, it is a quality they feel can help bridge communication gaps, lighten the mood at critical moments, and enhance connection in their relationship."

Winning a woman's heart involves a number of factors that require continuous effort—but with a great return: their love.