You’ve probably heard it a million times, “confidence comes from within.” Yet, there can be moments, that sometimes last for years when we forget who we really are and where exactly that confidence resides within us.
If you would like a little jolt of joy today or perhaps you’re ready for a whole overhaul of your confidence follow these 10 steps and you will be soaring before you know it.
1. Do what you say you’re going to do.
Your words have a lot of power, especially if you say them with intention and integrity. As you become mindful of what you say you’re going to do and back that with action, it will help you trust yourself more and that will extend into your relationships.
2. Dive into some self-care practices.
Nurture yourself, go to the beach and take a nap or read your favorite book, take a bath, carve out an afternoon to read your favorite magazines, cook yourself a delicious meal, go for a walk. Slowing down helps you get in touch with your needs; when you're able to tend to them, you end up being more in tune with your inner voice. Bonus: You end up feeling refreshed and can more easily tap into your creativity.
3. Write yourself a love note.
As corny as this may sound, it works. When you're able to remind yourself of how much you are loved, you remember that love is always present in your life.
4. Practice a gratitude meditation.
One of the most important practices is gratitude. It reminds us of all the abundance life is already filled with, and that it’s ALWAYS available to us. It shifts our perspective from fear and lack to love and abundance. I highly recommend doing gratitude meditations once a day. Set a timer for at least 3 minutes, perhaps even 5 minutes. Take a couple of deep breaths and then allow yourself to think of all the things you are grateful for in life right now, there is nothing ‘too small or big’.
5. Be gentle with yourself.
You're the only person you're guaranteed to be with for the rest of your life, so start being your own best friend now. Act accordingly.
6. Do something you’re scared of.
Sometimes getting out of your comfort zone can really do the trick. You can show yourself what you’re made of.
7. Write down one to three things you are passionate about and go do them.
You'll feel more confident when you're doing what you love. Why? Well, because when you spend more time acting on your passions, you feel more in sync with who you are and what uniquely lights you up. As this understanding grows and you give yourself more and more permission to be yourself, the more you love who you are. You stop fighting to fit a mold that doesn’t fit .
8. Be of service to others, and be generous.
Generosity always feels good when it comes from an authentic place. It can be anything; kindness, food, opportunities, clothing, money, experiences, etc. Give confidently from a place of fullness, while remembering there's always more where that came from.
9. Wear something you feel sexy in.
Yes, this is for the fellas, too. And ladies, if you can’t find an outfit you dig, sometimes wearing a fun lip gloss or lipstick really can brighten not only your face, but your whole mood. This isn’t about being materialistic; it’s about tapping into your personality and expressing it with your outfit. I like to think of fashion as an artful expression of who you are.
10. Look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself “I love you.”
We seem to easily express those three words to our loved ones often throughout our days, which is a very beautiful thing. Yet we often forget to look into our own eyes and say, “I love you.” Cultivate that self-love and let it extend outward.
Now, go soar.