We live in a world where people often think you have to be really pretty, slim, witty and smart to succeed in life. To get your dream partner. Your dream job. Your dream life.
Of course, being pretty, slim and witty probably doesn't hurt and it's always a good idea to keep learning and growing. But do know what I think makes the biggest difference between people who are genuinely happy and successful and those who are not?
Their VIBE! That certain-something which no one can explain but which is so attractive that it makes want to be around them.
When I was in my early 20s, I had the exact opposite effect on people! I used to suffer from depression, an eating disorder, co-dependency and bacteriophobia.
My self-image was so poor that I sometimes wondered if I was missing the gene that gave you self-confidence. I reliably bad-mouthed myself every single day. Constantly told myself things such as: I'm fat. I'm weak. I will never find a decent man and be happy.
Fifteen years later, I'm a completely different person, with a completely different vibe. And there actually many things I love about myself. This is how I found my very own je ne sais quoi:
1. I forced myself to think about what I liked about myself.
As already said, in my early 20s my self-esteem was pretty much non-existent. One day, however, I sat down to make a list of all the things I DID like about myself. In the beginning, it was tough. But then I thought a little harder and I put down: