You need the daily self-care rituals. But this is bigger than that. You have to plan out the big things—camping, shopping, rock climbing, dinner dates, classes, travel, spa visits—whatever really recharges you.
Take another 10 minutes to reflect on your larger self-care priorities. Then dedicate one Sunday a month to the bigger-picture self-love activities.
I need vigorous exercise and guy-time to be happy; so I plan on playing beach volleyball on Wednesdays and Saturdays. I need bone broth for my best digestion and overall health, so I plan on making a big ol' pot of it on Sunday to last me through the week. I need a long massage at least once a month to de-stress and to heal my active body. And I need to be out in nature to feel fully alive, so I plan for long hikes weekly and monthly.
I plan out these things at the beginning of every week and commit a day to each activity.
Bottom line: Plan out the big self-care activities around your physical, social, and emotional needs. You know you best, so listen to yourself. What are the things that make you melt a little just thinking about? Are they things like going to the beach? Maybe it’s riding horses? What about volunteering? Or rock climbing?
Think back to things that have made you feel most alive in your life, then make opportunities to do them. It’s not selfishness; it’s loving yourself. And the more you practice on you, the better you get at loving others.
Plan on having a thirty-minute brainstorm session at least once a month to get in touch with your long-term self-love needs. Sunday afternoons work well for most people.
Like everything in this life, fulfilling your self-care needs requires planning. So plan against the low-value habits that eat up your time. Then plan out daily self-care rituals for morning, afternoon, and night. Finally, plan out and schedule your bigger-picture self-care needs.
If you don’t, who will? And if you need help, I've got your back.
And one more thing: Learn how to say no. You’re talented and smart and fun, so there are bound to be people lining up for little slices of you. If someone’s request interferes with your self-love practice, just say no. A wise woman once said to me, "Someone else's demand is not necessarily your call to action." I recite that mantra to myself whenever someone asks something of me that diminishes my capacity to do what matter to me. Practice that this week.
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