7 Myths About Tantra To Stop Believing (From The World's Leading Expert)

There is such an air of mystery surrounding tantra, it can be as intimidating as it is alluring. But in truth, tantra is not for the few—it's for the many. And Tantra's only real secret is that there's nothing about it that should or needs to be kept hidden. So here are seven of the most common myths about tantra and why you can now forget about them. It's time to bring this transformative practice into your bedroom and into your life.

You can have a tantra quickie as well as a marathon session. Tantra is different from regular sex because it connects you in body, mind, and soul. Most sex only connects you in the body. Going the distance in being attentive to your partner's and your own needs is more important than the length of time you make love.

It's like learning yoga or martial arts: You start by understanding your own body—practicing deep breathing, relaxation, and awareness. Inside everyone there is a switch—the kunda or light bulb of sexual energy. Most people have never been taught how to turn on that switch.

Anything you do that helps slow down mental chatter is a form of meditation, which in itself is a form of yoga. There are literally thousands of ways to meditate, though many people have only been introduced to one.

That type of shame is crippling to lives and relationships. It prevents individuals from growing into their best selves. So, no, tantra isn't a cult. The idea of bringing rituals into your life sometimes gets a bad rap. A ritual for your sex life can be just that. It's simply about creating a practice, or a habit, to enhance an experience.

Some might talk up their knowledge of tantra. They might try to make it seem as if they have some sort of magical prowess and hype up all the people they have slept with. But they're just misleading people with a false perception of what tantra actually is and what it really promotes.

Whether you're in a monogamous relationship or not, there is nothing casual about this incredibly meaningful practice. Instead, tantra has the sacred ability crack us open—to make us vulnerable with another human being—in such a deeply intimate way that we connect on every level: physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Tantra heats up that frozen part of yourself—the part that's scared of living in Technicolor.

It transforms that part of you that shies away from trying new things that intrigue you or spark your imagination. It breaks through the emotional and psychological walls that stop us from experiencing what we truly want, which is authenticity in our relationships and in ourselves.

I spent nine years in India studying the roots of ancient tantra and creating techniques that apply to the busy, modern lifestyle. I have worked with tens of thousands of people, and I know anyone can do this. By applying these simple techniques, tantra can meet you wherever you are and change you for the better.

I have seen people liberate their voices, heal from trauma, attract the right partner, get promotions at work, manifest more money, start creative projects, and heal from symptoms of depression. All you need to benefit from tantra is the desire.