As a clinical psychologist, one of the biggest complaints that I hear from my clients — especially among those who are single and dating — is that no one ever listens anymore.
We all know the feeling: You’re sitting there having a perfectly good time — and then someone pulls out their phone. It’s the ultimate conversation killer.
Some of you may be thinking, What’s the big deal? We all do it. But I’m going to argue that it is a big deal. Human beings are profoundly wired for relationships, and lots of good things happen while we’re in conversation with each other that are completely imperceptible to us on a conscious level. Just a few of the benefits of deep listening: