Maybe when I'm 15 pounds lighter, have a brand-new wardrobe, and am meditating daily … these are some of the ways we communicate, “I’m not ready for them,” to the universe.
First, in your visualizations, believe that your ideal partner will love you just for you. They won't care about your little cosmetic "flaws." He respects your emotions, your friendships, and your family.
Second, start acting today like the person you truly want to be. What would you be doing once you had that dream relationship? Would you travel more? Treat yourself to massages? Take an art class? Start enjoying those things now. The closer you move to being that vibrant version of yourself, the more naturally your dream partner will be attracted to you.
And the best part is that unlike many people in the dating “game," you won’t feel like you have to be some fictional, perfect version of yourself in order to attract someone. You’ll have been behaving as the “new you” that you want to continue being!