Life is indeed like a box of chocolates. But here's the question: are you fully appreciating what's inside the box?
In other words, do you pop any of the chocolates into your mouth and finish in seconds? Or, do you take the time to look at the chocolates, figure out which flavor appeals to you most, and then experience eating it completely, activating all of your senses?
The automatic response is to go through life somewhat mindlessly. But when we take the time to look, listen, touch, smell and taste what's available to us in this life, things get a whole lot better.
Sure, many of us incorporate superfoods like acai berries, maca, and even chocolate into our diets to healthily fuel us, I'll argue that the most fun super-fuel is sex. Frequent great sex will boost your physical and emotional vitality, mental clarity and spiritual well-being.
The better quality the sex, the more empowered you will feel in all areas of your life. The best kind of sex makes us present, in touch with ourselves, and lets us be vulnerably, fully seen — both physically and emotionally "stripped down." This is where meditation comes into play — literally!
Whether you're a novice or expert in meditation, incorporating the practice into your sex life can put the “OM” into your “OMG!” Here’s why:
1. Meditation makes you realize the power of your mind.
And that recognition gives you sexual power. So why have the fast food version of sex when you can have decadent, transformative and energizing sex through your mindfulness practice? An intimate relationship allows us to rest and remove our daily armor and recharge, but too often we get in and out of the zone as if in a race to beat the commercials before resuming Game of Thrones.
When we make the effort to become more present with our sensory experiences, we realize the power of sexual energy. In fact, it's one of the most readily available, internal forces that human beings have to harness their qi (life force).
2. Meditation enables you to dissolve and resolve energy blockages.
With sexual meditation, you can get to the root of energy blockages and harness the power of the mind to help yourself clear your channels. Sexual partners can help each other overcome difficult blockages through engaging with each other in one of the most direct ways possible, truly seeing one another, without all the mental baggage that we usually bring to ourselves.
It is not that you create higher consciousness through sexual meditation, it is that you simply remove what has developed and blocked the consciousness. The less the space within you that is obscured and covered, the more you can see and bring about a higher level of pleasure, which is already in you. If sex is done with meditative awareness then you and your partner can experience shared sexual energy, without letting any of it go to waste on anxiety.
3. Meditation gives you a greater connection with yourself.
It is vital that we are fully present in our own bodies in order to enjoy the full pleasure potential of sex. There is a place you can float to during meditation called “the gap." Deepak Chopra describes it as “the place without words." It is there that your internal chatter ceases, (or at least quiets down), and you can reach higher consciousness.
When thoughts arise during sex, it's easier to lose touch with the sensations of the present moment. This limits the richness and depth of the sex you are having. But when you meditate, you exercise the muscles that help you stay in the present moment, and become more in touch with the sensitivity of your body, allowing you to deeply experience every physical and emotional response.
4. Meditation gives you a greater connection with your partner.
Sexual meditation increases emotional connection, and sex is always better when there is more emotional connection involved. The more you open up during sex, the more potential energy you can contain, and release, when having an orgasm.
When we get close to climaxing, we take shorter breaths and tense up our bodies. Sometimes, this lends itself to people feeling self-conscious, which ultimately makes orgasm harder to achieve. Meditation lets you let go of preconceived notions of what you think you are supposed to feel and allows you to just feel with no judgement.
If you’re interested in spirituality and waking up — on the right side of the bed — then sexual meditation is for you!
Andra Henderson is a Canadian-born writer, singer, actor, attempted dancer, YouTuber, social media-er, animal lover (not eater), cat cuddler and rescuer, wellness promoter, high-maintenance nature lover, yoga and meditation practicer, world traveler, avid arts supporter, music listener, bookworm, insatiable learner, fast-talking socializer, silliness instigator, sarcastic banterer, lip pouter, French kisser and more. You can follow her on Facebook and Twitter. She looks forward to connecting with you!