We have already talked a bit about the noble adversary. Conscious partnership is its counterpart. The conscious partner is, in fact, the noble ally. Do you have a partner (this could be a wife, husband, good friend, or trusted work companion or a fellow spiritual practitioner, among others) with whom you can ally to reach your own goals, your highest aspirations? What if you had an ally in the struggle to climb that mountain you’ve got in front of you? That creative challenge, that family to raise, that problem to solve. What if you had an ally who was pledged to join forces with you in order to meet your goals and aspirations? Who pledged to hold you accountable? Who pledged to support you when you falter? Who pledged to remind you of your aspirations? And who requested the same kind of support from you? This is a conscious partnership.
Mahatma Gandhi said, "Human beings should always be trying out experiments: experiments in living." I love this sentiment and have taken it to heart.
Why not try the experiment suggested by Dr. Kohut? Create around yourself an environment of relationships that is "evoking, sustaining, and affirming." This is, of course, the work of a lifetime. But I’m sure you can do it, and I’m sure it will bear remarkable fruit.
Remember, as William Blake reminded us: no man is an island. We are a part of one another in ways that we had never imagined. And, in fact, we are co-creators, with our friends and relations, of our selves and of the world around us.
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