"First we’ll kiss for a bit, then he’ll throw me on the bed, then he’ll touch my whole body, then he’ll get on top, then we’ll swap, and we’ll have the most beautiful lovemaking session of our life..."
Sound familiar? I’ll admit it. I used to walk into every sexual encounter with a mental list of expectations of how I wanted our lovemaking to unfold, just like this one. When it didn’t go that way, I would roll over disappointed, annoyed, and unsatisfied. The guy would turn to me and say, "Everything OK?" to which I would curtly reply, "Yep, fine!" which was a big fat lie.
At the time, I didn't realize that these expectations were closing me off to incredible possibilities in the moment. My partner and I had no chance to "make magic" while making love because I was too busy making sure all the boxes were ticked.
If you can relate, it’s time to do some serious dabbling in the art of surrender. Release your expectations and focus on connection, alignment, and presence. Get vulnerable with your partner and practice what I like to call CCC—crystal-clear communication—so that you can get on the same page, align your souls, and experience electric unity. You’ll be blown away by how delicious sex can be when you open wide to the possibilities.
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