1. What is the most joyous memory from your childhood?
2. What was the biggest challenge from your childhood? What did you learn from it?
3. Who was the most influential mentor or teacher in your life? How did they impact you?
4. How did you and Mom/Dad fall in love? (If they are together, ask them the secret to a happy marriage. If they are separated, ask them what was missing.)
5. What is the biggest obstacle you've overcome in your adult life? What did you take from the experience?
6. What has been the most joyous moment of your adult life that is not related to me or your other kids?
7. What is your favorite memory with me as child?
8. Is there a particular mantra that you have tried to live your life by? What have been your guiding principles?
9. What is your wish for me as an adult?
10. Is there anything I don’t know about you that you want me and my children to know?
Side note: If you're saying to yourself “Well, my father would never answer those questions,” I challenge you to at least give him a chance. If he doesn’t want to go deep about some of the personal questions from his history for any reason, honor his privacy and focus on some of the more philosophical questions about lessons learned and happy memories. The attention and genuine curiosity will still make him feel seen and appreciated.
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