There's no way around it: In romantic relationships, fights happen. You're in proximity from one day to the next, and you're dealing with two different experiences, different preferences, and different moods at any given time. But that’s not necessarily a bad thing.
Sure, there’s value in keeping unnecessary conflict to a minimum, but it’s also important to not ignore or avoid it. It’s actually much more helpful and healthy to consider how to "fight right" instead—carefully and considerately expressing your point of view while listening to and learning from your partner, too.
There are absolutely destructive fighting patterns, such as being passive aggressive and stonewalling (or refusing to interact with) your partner. But here's the thing: There are also constructive fighting patterns that I know from experience can help you become closer to your partner and stronger for having had the interaction.
Here are four simple approaches I have learned (and practiced!) to fight right: