A relationship burns out when there is no more energy to give. Both of you need to have positive energy to make it work, but sometimes we get so depleted, we just can't do it anymore. When that occurs, most people's first instinct is to go into avoidance mode (leaving the relationship) in order to avoid triggering uncomfortable emotions, like the fear of not being loved, of being rejected, of not being enough.
Other people will fight those same emotions in a desperate attempt to save the relationship. You might wonder what makes it desperate. Can't it just be wanting to save the relationship? Well, it could. The difference is the motivation. When actions are driven by fear, your primary goal is to avoid pain rather than to face uncertainty or loneliness, even if it's for the greater good. You cannot act from fear and love at the same time. Fear is the opposite of love. And one of the best ways to avoid acting from a place of fear when turmoil arises is to be consistently caring for yourself and maintaining a distinct identity from your relationship.
Here are six strategies to minimize your chances of burning out or acting out of fear: