This Is The Worst Thing About Sex For Nearly A Third of Women

Sex toy company Lovehoney asked over 3,000 people this question. Men's top concern about sex was when it was over too quickly. But for women, the most commonly reported worst thing about sex was feeling self-conscious—some 30% of women said this.

"It's really challenging to believe in your sense of pleasure when you are constantly questioning whether or not you are living up to standards that the world imposes upon you," Battle says. "When we don't feel the best in our bodies, our sex lives can suffer. In my practice I see people who have difficulty with arousal and orgasm as a result of self-monitoring and overthinking. It's actually very common. When our minds are racing with these thoughts, it can inhibit our ability to tap into physical sensations and dampen our experience of pleasure."

(If you need some ideas for positive thoughts to repeat to yourself about your body, I love feminist life coach and women's rights lawyer Kara Loewentheil, J.D.'s recommendations.)

Self-confidence stems from within, but that doesn't mean the people in your life who love you can't help you in that journey. Research shows people who talk about sex with their friends tend to have more sexual self-confidence and are more willing to ask for what they want in bed. And if you're in a relationship, that partner of yours should be worshipping your body—and making it obvious. Another study found people who feel like their partner really appreciates their body are more sexually satisfied, have more desire and orgasms, and are more satisfied with their relationship overall.

"I also recommend taking some time out of each day to practice body acceptance and self-love. Take a moment to thank your legs for getting you to work, your belly for digesting your food, your arms for helping you carry your groceries, and so on," Battle says. "We only get one body in this world, and regardless of ability, age, size, or race, every body has the capacity for pleasure and is deserving of it."