The New Year is a clean slate. It's a perfect time for us to reflect upon and say goodbye to what has been, and to turn ourselves toward what we hope will come into our lives.
Because of the "new beginning" feeling that naturally accompanies the New Year, it's a great time to attract new love into your life. I wrote this article for anyone hoping to do just that.
Here are six powerful steps that will guide you to creating new love in the new year:
1. Say goodbye to past experiences.
If we don't properly say goodbye to what has been, and process these experiences (even grieve them, if necessary), we will carry them with us into our new relationships and lives.
This is how negative patterns in relationships repeat themselves over and over again. When we neglect to purge ourselves of bad habits and dynamics in our past (and especially in our love lives), it means we haven't properly identified the issues and dealt with them.
To create a truly clean slate for this New Year ahead of us, take time to reflect on what your relationship history has been in 2014.
Ask yourself: What went well? What didn't go well? What am I ready to say goodbye to?
Write your answers down on a piece of paper, and when you're ready, burn it if you'd like, emphasizing the finality of that part of your life. By saying goodbye, you're creating a fresh platform to create what you truly want.
2. Know exactly what you desire in love.
After you've consciously cleared out the old, you're ready to invite in the new. The first step in this process is taking time to understand what you might desire in a new relationship.
To find out what that is, answer the following questions: What characteristics does my ideal partner have? What does my new relationship look and feel like? Who am I as a partner in this new relationship?
Be imaginative and creative, but also really tap into your inner truth: what feels good, and what doesn't? You have to know what you want to make it a reality; clarity is the first step of your dreams coming true.
3. Get in touch with what your new relationship feels like before it even arrives.
Dropping into your heart and using your imagination to feel the relationship before it arrives is powerful manifestation tool. Not only does this send a message to yourself (and the Universe) that you're serious about creating this relationship, but it also deepens your desire and makes you passionate about following through with your intention.
Passion motivates you; it commits you to your goal.
If you're serious about creating new love in the new year, set aside time every day to feel your relationship in your heart. Get to know what it's like to be in it before it arrives, and you'll strongly call that experience to you.
4. Treat yourself with love, care, kindness and more.
The most important lesson about love is this: a partner will reflect back to you how you feel about yourself and what you expect to happen in relationships.
Relationships are our mirrors. This means that whatever you fear will happen in a relationship will happen. It also means that how you feel and treat yourself will be reflected back to you.
The good news is that if you truly feel worthy, beautiful, incredible, and connected to yourself, you will attract a partner who reflects this experience back to you in the form of his or her love and devotion. And if you feel lacking or unworthy, these feelings will unfortunately be reflected back to you, too.
To attract an incredible relationship this new year, really pay attention to how you treat yourself. Appreciate yourself, believe in yourself, say kind things to yourself, and you'll on the path to creating a relationship that reflects these beautiful qualities back to you.
5. Confront your fears about relationships.
We all have fears about relationships and romantic love. These are the internal messages that tell us we can't have the love we want. I refer to these messages as limiting beliefs.
In order to create a new, fresh love in 2015, you have to confront your fears about love as they arise. This is not to say that you should be "fearless," about creating love, because that's basically impossible. We all have fears; it's normal. What it does mean is that in order to create the best relationship possible, you must look your fears in the eye and challenge their validity.
When fears such as "the type of love I want doesn't exist," or "I don't see any good relationships out there, so how could I create one?" or "I'm too _____ to find love," arise, ask yourself if these beliefs are really true, or if they're just your fears. See if you can imagine that an alternative reality can exist. By questioning the validity of your fears, you transcend them, putting you on the path to creating a better love than you've ever imagined.
An open mind is priceless. You can only create what you believe is possible. When you don't believe, you absolutely limit what will come into your life.
Start this new year by believing in yourself and believing in love. Live your life through the perspective of wonder and potential. Open yourself up to the endless possibilities of the Universe, and they will make their way to you.
This new year is a clean slate for what you want to create in love. 2015 is filled with infinite possibilities for all of us. Let go of the old, connect to what you desire, believe in your potential, and you will create anything you desire.
This article was originally published in December of 2014