Relationships provide the opportunity to teach us many lessons. Whether it's between parent-child, friends, or even strangers, we can learn so much more about ourselves in relation to others.
On some level, every relationship is sacred as it holds opportunity for us to grow. However, there's something distinct about the intimate relationship shared by lovers. Our partners are not defined by genetics or familial bonds. We're not necessarily thrown into proximity by way of work or school environments. We choose willingly to enter into relationship with them. In addition, there's the added component of physical intimacy.
Here are five characteristics of healthy, sacred relationships:
1. You can be yourself.
In a sacred partnership, you won't feel the need for self-censorship. You feel free to show the spectrum of who you are and lose the masks often worn in society.
Even though you may still feel self-conscious about some of your behaviors, you work through your hesitation and often end up laughing at yourself. In the presence of this other, you are more accepting of the things you once tried to hide.
2. You maintain individuality.
Even though all barriers have been removed to allow room for your significant other, you still find independence within the relationship. Though you share many things together, you still have some of your own interests and pursuits.
You are not reliant on the other’s presence to fully function or feel whole, nor would your partner expect or demand otherwise. Your partner supports and encourages your individuality, as do you for them.
3. You have a mutual desire for personal evolution.
Consciously sacred connections always move in the direction of growth: for the partnership and for each individual. A desire to impede the growth of the other for one’s comfort is a manifestation of fear. Even when one is concerned that the relationship may dissolve, they accept that their paths may diverge for the benefit of both. Evolution is put before personal gain.
4. You “hold space” for each other.
The art of holding space for another is rooted in love and respect. It means listening to them wholeheartedly and letting them know by your complete presence that they are seen and valued. It's not a space where you try to fix the other person. It's about being witness to the totality of your beloved.
5. You're peaceful.
Life doesn’t feel blissful all of the time, nor will any relationship. However, the majority of time spent together will be peaceful. Interactions with each other will leave each party feeling invigorated as opposed to drained.
An undercurrent of anxiety is not desirable to either individual. Though there may be stressful situations (schedules, children, relatives, job demands, etc.) both parties are committed to reinforcing their bond with minimal friction.
In conclusion, highly sacred relationships present a number of characteristics. These qualities can be seen in all types of relationships, but meet specific challenges in the romantic realm. Some unions will last a lifetime and others are brief. The one thing all have in common is that they provide some of the most transformative interactions you can experience.