Let’s face it: Being preoccupied with finding “the one” just sucks. You think about it nonstop, none of your conversations would pass the Bechdel test, and it creates a cycle of mania and self-loathing that's entirely dependent on male attention. You’re unhappy, and the people closest to you are tired of hearing about it.
The best way to date is to have a Zen attitude. Make “it will happen when it’s supposed to happen” your mantra. Not only will it ground you in peace, but you’ll send out good vibes to potential mates.
Sadly, dating apps are not built on this principle. They’re gamified—designed to be addictive.
But that addictive quality often results in quick burnout. Most people check the apps too often, and as you get used to the level of stimulus you're receiving, you have to up your interaction/investment to keep feeling the same kind of "high."
The time and energy that go into reading profiles and connecting with people via emails, texts, old-fashioned calls, coffee dates, etc., definitely adds up. On top of that, you might be juggling several “relationships” at various stages.
This type of behavior inevitably leads to what I'll refer to as DAB—dating app burnout. But, since dating apps are one of the most common ways to meet people these days, it may not be ideal to cut them out of your plan of attack entirely. With that in mind, here are six ways to simplify the process so you can stay in the game until you find a great partner (and not just quit 'cause you're overwhelmed).