"In your wildest dreams, what would you want from your relationship?" That's the first question I ask couples who come to me for advice. The responses are often things like better communication, more help around the house, decrease of fighting, or friendship.
However, when we start to dig deeper, every single person eventually realizes these smaller needs are part of a greater whole. They need to feel secure, protected and cared for by their partner.
This is no surprise. According to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, every individual needs safety and love in order to thrive and reach ultimate self-actualization. We all have an innate need to feel cherished by our partners. So what holds most couples back from getting this need met?
Every relationship is different, so I'm not going to pretend I know the exact answer. However, there are universal principles that may be holding you back from truly feeling cherished in your relationship: