As a life coach, many of my clients come to me feeling like they're unable to cope with their emotions. They feel overly sensitive and are fearful of experiencing any strong emotions. What I tell them is that finding emotional balance doesn't have to be hard work — it's simply about identifying where we need to make small internal shifts that will help us cope better.
Here are five habits that will bring you blissful emotional balance:
1. Instead of reacting, they respond.
A reaction is a hot, in-the-moment burst of emotion that's usually driven by our ego (so we're more likely to react when we're disconnected from ourselves). It might last just a split second before our intuition kicks in and offers some perspective, or it might take over to a point that we act on it. When we feel crappy after dealing with a situation or person, that's a sign we've reacted rather than responded. Responding will leave you feeling like you handled things with integrity and respect.
2. They honor the reality of their emotions.
When we're in the here and now, it's much easier to cope with emotions and see them as just that: emotions. If we get caught up future or past tripping, emotions and situations can take on new (and untrue) meanings as they become attached to stories.
For example, imagine you're turned down for a job. Naturally you're disappointed. If you're not present with that emotion and experience it in the moment the mind delves back into your past for all the other times you've felt that way. Now you feel like a failure and start to carry a feeling of unworthiness into every other interview. When we stay present, we're empowered to start fresh every moment and we can see every situation with perspective.
3. They look inward and have true compassion for their authentic selves.
Make a big list of all the things that make you feel great, and do at least one thing on it every day. Big or small, it doesn't matter! Doing something that makes us feel amazing is an act of self-love — it's that simple! This small effort reduces stress levels and makes us feel capable and confident.
Rather than waiting for other people or circumstances to make us feel good, practicing self love is all about empowering ourselves to feel how we want to feel, all the time.
4. They insist on movement.
When we're feeling down, stressed or anxious, one of the best ways to get out of our head and reconnected with ourselves is movement — especially free movement. It's very rare we move our bodies in a way that is totally free! Put on some music and give it a go whenever you feel like you're in a bit of a funk. It will feel weird at first so make a feel-good playlist of songs that you just can help but boogie to. Make movement (of any kind) part of your daily ritual of looking after your emotional well-being.
5. They don't treat gratitude as a bonus; they make it a requirement.
Practicing gratitude is super supportive for our emotional wellness because it shifts our focus to the good in our lives, and trains up to look for the positives in every situation. It gives us appreciation for all that we have instead of getting caught up with what's lacking. To cultivate gratitude, try sharing three things you're grateful for each day with your partner, family or housemates during dinner or before bed. You can also write a gratitude list in your journal or make a gratitude jar to put slips of paper with things you're grateful for on them into it every day.
Looking after our emotional wellness helps us get the very most out of life. When we feel emotionally balanced, we feel more centered and connected to our intuition. We become more productive, better at making decisions, more present, and the very best version of ourselves.