It's easy to observe that existing in a state of contracted awareness leads to thinking about choices in black and white. This limiting perspective keeps us from empowering ourselves to recognize the unlimited possibilities the universe has to offer.
To get to the point where we can make good, nourishing decisions for ourselves, we must expand our awareness. No one is going to argue that life doesn't bring difficult situations. But these difficult situations expand our awareness, helping us to learn and grow.
We must look inward and explore our emotional life — the inner-workings behind our decisions. Rather than reducing every decision to a rational calculation, which only shuts out the very things that go into a good decision, it's important we understand each decision we make in life triggers particular emotions in us. We must honor them. But how? That's where awareness comes in.
Here are a few ways we can step into a purer field of awareness in order to make more productive decisions...
1. Examine your state of awareness.
Before you can make a change you first must be able to see how your thoughts are limiting you, and causing problems. When someone is truly self-aware they can tell you how they are feeling, what assumptions they're making, what expectations they have, and how their core beliefs are being affected. Knowing these elements takes honesty.
When we face our own fears with honesty, we find our greatest genius. By getting to know what you're feeling, what assumptions you have, what you expect and what are your core beliefs you are increasing self-awareness. The more honest you are with yourself the more your self-created illusions will collapse, giving you the ability to make choices with clarity.
2. Reach for the level of the solution.
Pause to consider a course of action that begins with finding a fix. The solution to any problem does not lie at the level of the problem. Most of us stay suck at a field of contracted awareness were we see only the negative. Staying at this level awareness only makes us struggle. We make decisions out of fear, anxiety and frustration, and our energy depletes. By expanding our perspective, we are able to see other things, and often a solution appears somewhere in the composition.
3. Find the ambiguity of each scenario.
Rather than thinking in terms of bad and good when making decision, try to see a more balanced view by embracing the uncertainty of every situation. Sit with the uncertainty. Relish it.
Likewise, a seemingly negative situation can become the catalyst to the best moments of our lives. Consider a "bad" decision you've made in the past; what are a few positives that came from that choice? Also, how have your good decisions created negative outcomes? This exercise broadens our awareness to the level of pure consciousness; where no problem exist, and field of infinite possibilities does.
If we embrace life and ourselves with total awareness, decisions can turn out to be win-win, always. Either the right decision is made, or something goes wrong, and we learn from mistakes — expanding our awareness regardless. After all, the only bad decision is a decision we don't grow from.