Why You Keep Having Stress Dreams & How To Actually Stop Them

Is there anything worse than going to bed stressed and having that stress carry into your dreams? Stress dreams are far from uncommon, but they can be prevented. Here's what to know about them, plus how dream experts say you can work past them in the name of more restful (and less stressful) sleep.

A stress dream can be about anything remotely bothersome and even ordinary, whereas a nightmare tends to be "gruesome or life-threatening, and are frequently related to trauma," Ellis notes. Stress dreams are often "fast-paced and go nowhere, like a hamster on a wheel," she adds.

Since stress dreams arise from stressful situations in our waking lives, they will look a little different for everyone. With that being said, Ellis and Loewenberg share that these are a few common ones:

And here are their expert-approved ways to interpret three common categories of stress dreams:

Work can represent our livelihood, our finances, and our greater purpose, so if you've been worrying about any of those things, it may show up in your dreams as trouble in the office or with a co-worker or boss.

According to Loewenberg, these dreams often relate to stress about your work life and career (even more than literal work dreams do). "For example," she says, "if you can't find your class or your locker, it can be because you're stressing out about the fact that you are not where you feel you should be in your career."

It's also not uncommon for stressful relationship dreams to include water because water tends to reflect our emotions, according to Loewenberg. "So, you might dream of drowning, a shipwreck, or a torrential downpour," she adds.

Stress is closely related to our nervous system, and Ellis adds if that's out of whack, our dreams likely will be, too. "It is also a bodily felt thing," she notes. "I believe dreams are often images of our physical state and represent what's happening in our nervous system." The most important piece to notice is your emotional feelings during the dream.

With recurring dreams, Loewenberg adds that it's important to pay attention to the specific stress and emotion that's present. Is it urgency? Frustration? Fear? "That's a big clue, and it will be connected to that same specific stress in real life," she says.

Recurring stress dreams are a sign you need to work on mitigating stress while you're awake—especially in the hours before sleep. This is easier said than done, but Ellis and Loewenberg shared some helpful tips for getting started:

"Do make time to constructively deal with the sources of your stress," Ellis adds. "If there is a difficult conversation you need to have with a friend or family member, don't put it off. If you are feeling unprepared for something, put in the time." It's all about giving yourself a break, so your sleeping mind can get a break, too.

In addition to journaling, other calming nighttime routines that can get you in the right mindset before bed include guided sleep meditations and yoga nidra. You can also try these in the middle of the night, should a dream wake you up.

"Just throw the question out there to your dream universe, and you'll get an answer," she says. If you're not typically able to lucid dream, you can also try this approach in the moments when you first wake up and journal about it, she adds.

To summarize, anything you can do to reduce the stress in your waking life should help keep it from sneaking into your dreams. Prioritizing good sleep quality can also help make your dreams a little sweeter. Here are some quick tips for doing both.

Dreams can be difficult to decipher, especially stressful ones, but they can hold important messages about what needs to change in our daily life. Managing stress and optimizing your sleep routine will help you sleep through the night, mitigate those stress dreams, and help you wake up feeling rested—and ideally, stress-free.