What INFJs Are Really Like In Relationships + Best Compatibility Matches

Compatibility is essential to a healthy and happy relationship, and from astrological compatibility to Enneagram compatibility, there are a few ways to gauge it. One of those ways is to check your Myers-Briggs types. Here, we're diving deep into INFJ compatibility. Whether you're an INFJ yourself or you're dating one, here's what you should know.

These people are known for being complex and thoughtful, and they have a deep concern for doing the right thing and helping others. They're creative, imaginative, and able to turn their ideals into real solutions, according to Blaylock-Johnson. They're not just dreamers—they're doers, she says. She adds that they're also characterized by being able to manage emotions with logic, making space for both.

Overall, though, INFJs are sensitive to the needs of their partners, attentive listeners, and excellent communicators, she says. Just be aware they can have a hard time accepting criticism and dealing with conflicts, she notes, since they tend to take the role of peacemaker.

According to Hallett, an ENFP can be a great match for an INFJ, "since both have a focus on deep, authentic relationships and a primary importance on values." Their differences lie in their energy levels, enthusiasm, and activities, with ENFPs being extroverted and perceiving, and INFJs being introverted and judging. However, Hallett says, "They have the communication skills to negotiate this in a way that is supportive to both."

ENTPs are extroverted, intuitive, thinking, and perceiving. They can make a great match with INFJs, according to Blaylock-Johnson, "because the introverted nature of INFJs helps to bring some balance to more outgoing ENTPs." They can also give each other the ability to feel heard, seen, and understood. While they may seem different initially, these two have a lot to offer each other in terms of growth, balance, and reciprocity.

"If you and your partner are the same in intuition/feeling (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ), there's a greater than 70% chance of compatibility," Hallett previously told mbg. In the case of INFPs and INFJs, the only difference is judging versus perceiving, which can influence how you approach things. Judgers prefer things to be orderly and planned out, while perceivers are more comfortable being flexible and going with the flow, so that's something to be aware of.

Again, going off the compatibility of NFs, ENFJs can also make good partners for INFJs, with the only difference being their extroverted nature. It's important to remember that everyone falls somewhere on the introvert-to-extrovert spectrum. Being an "E" doesn't mean you're 100% extroverted; you may just lean in that direction. Ultimately, these two have a lot in common as far as values and how they see and understand the world.

Overall, regardless of who they're with, INFJs can be ultra-sensitive, reluctant to open up, and hold very high standards. All of these things can play out in a relationship, but with awareness and effort, they can absolutely be overcome. It helps that INFJs are thoughtful and good communicators, so these potential rifts certainly don't have to be deal-breakers.

"When good things are happening, this can seem like a match made in heaven with true understanding and a deep connection," she says. But when times are tough, "the opposite can be true, with the potential for defensiveness and withdrawal on both sides."

All the compatibility tests in the world can't make up for the most important factors in a relationship: how you both feel about each other and how willing you are to grow in your relationship. Even the most compatible Myers-Briggs types will have things to work on, while two seemingly incompatible types can still have a healthy relationship. Nevertheless, whether you're an INFJ or you're dating one, it never hurts to know what to look out for.