5 Unexpected Ways To Bring Yourself To Orgasm—That Don't Involve The Clitoris

When we vulva owners hear orgasm, we might generally think of the most common kind—clitoral stimulation. Clitoral orgasms are a fabulous way to experience an orgasm, but did you know they're not even close to being the only way to reach orgasm?

Yes, my friends. There are far more options out there.

Is the G-spot real? Yes, it is. This elusive part of our anatomy is simply an extra pleasurable area on the front wall of the vagina (which is internal) about halfway between the vaginal opening and cervix. If you insert a finger inside your (or your partner's) vagina and make a "come here" or "come hither" motion, you'll feel a spongy and bumpy or ridged area. That's the G-spot!

Nipple orgasms can be fab and fun, but like most things, they aren't for everyone. Just like anything else in the realm of sex, they range from person to person in terms of what each person prefers and what feels the best. If you've never experienced one before, it's best to sit back, relax, and just have some fun.

If you're experimenting with a partner, start slow and proceed as things feel good. Always remember, orgasms aren't the goal—pleasure is!

People may enjoy experimenting by applying body-safe oils or lubricants, playing with temperature sensations, applying clamps, or experimenting with vibrators and suction toys. I really love the nipple clamps from Stript Erotic Designs or the Nipple & Clit Clamp set from Unbound Babes.

Anal play is a fabulous option that encourages exploration, patience, and pleasure. The booty is full of sensitive areas that enjoy experiencing pleasure, and there are so many ways to go start exploring.

First things first—use lube. Booty play always, and I mean always, requires lube. It makes everything much more relaxed, easy, and pleasurable, which is the goal. 

There are many fantastic anal toys, such as butt plugs, anal beads, and dildos, that are all body-safe. Many of them will pair nicely with different kinds of lube, and you will be ready to roll! You can orgasm from stimulation of the anus externally or via internal stimulation. (The A-spot is a patch of very sensitive tissue located at the very back of the vagina, near the cervix, that tends to be very pleasurable for lots of vagina owners out there. The easiest way to access it? Through the tush!)

Lastly, just have some fun. As with the nipple orgasm and any other type of orgasm you're experimenting with for the first time, this is all about figuring out what gives you pleasure. There is no right or wrong way to do anything—it's just you discovering what parts of your body respond best to different forms of stimulation.

The cervix is located all the way at the back of the vaginal canal, but it can feel mighty good when stimulated. Apply your fave lube and play around with fingers, your partner's penis, or dildos.

There are no specific instructions for reaching a cervical orgasm—it will literally be different for each and every body. Some people's cervixes might be more sensitive to stimulation than others. For many people who menstruate, their cervixes might be more sensitive around that time of the month, so be cautious!

Blended orgasms are the result of two or more of your fave areas being stimulated at the same time. This could include your clitoris—or it could be your nipples plus your anus being stimulated at the same time, for example. 

To understand a blended orgasm, let me give you an example. When I masturbate on my own and have a clitoral orgasm, it's fab. But when I have penetrative vaginal sex with my partner while also using my vibrator, it is a different sensation because so many areas are being stimulated at once. 

This doesn't necessarily mean I am having a cervical and clitoral orgasm at the same time, but it does mean that my pleasure is heightened, and honestly, that's all that matters—and what helps us reach a blended orgasm!

If you haven't picked up on the theme here, it's this: Just let it feel good. Whether it brings you to orgasm or not, the goal is pleasure.