When you're in a relationship with a narcissist, everything is about him (or her—but for this article we'll use "him" as an inclusive pronoun). It's confusing and exhausting. One day you get it together to leave. You're finally ready to take the steps required to make your life and energy revolve around you and your needs again. Hooray!
While this is an exciting time, and you are to be congratulated on moving in a positive direction, you also need to mentally and emotionally prepare yourself for the adjustment period right after your breakup, which is likely to present some challenges.
All breakups are difficult, but this type is often the hardest. You feel up, then down, over and over—it's as much of a roller coaster as your relationship itself. Understanding the patterns you are likely to encounter can really help during the early months after a breakup with an emotionally manipulative person. Here's a list of 10 common patterns plus ways to cope with each one: