13 Types Of Friends You'll Have In Your Life, From Best To Toxic

Ahead, we break down eight types of friends that all have their place in a healthy and well-rounded social life—as well as five types of friends to avoid.

A best friend is someone whose friendship we consider the strongest, most intimate, or most important to us among all our other types of friends. The exact nature of that friendship might vary from person to person—for some, a best friend might be someone you talk with constantly and love spending time with the most out of anyone else, while for some people, a best friend is less about how much time you spend together and more about the way you're able to trust, rely on, and support each other when it matters. Either way, the point is that this friend stands out to you as someone you consider particularly close to and important to you.

A social friend is someone who you spend time with regularly because they're fun to be around. They're someone you go to when you are in the mood to socialize, have a good time, and exercise that extroverted part of your personality. They may not necessarily be someone who you would confide in or look to for emotional support, but you genuinely enjoy their company and friendship. This is the person you know is always down to hang out and go to events with you, the one who is always invited to your parties and gatherings, and your go-to for "going out" and good times.

According to Franco, low-dose friends are the type of friends who we like at "low doses." "We might like them if we only spend once a month with them, whereas for other friends, we want to spend every day with them," she explains. That might be because they have a different lifestyle than yours, or they may have a personality type that you find pleasant only in short bursts. There's nothing wrong with these types of friendships; they just happen to work best when you only see each other every now and then, as opposed to trying to link your lives more intimately.

Group friends are the people who you share a friend group with. You may see and talk to them regularly as part of the friend group, though you might not necessarily spend time with them one-on-one. You might like some of these friends more or less than others, and some you probably wouldn't be friends with if it weren't for the group. Nonetheless, they're key to your social circle, and you're always friendly with each other when together.

"We can have friends that are confined to certain circumstances," says Franco. These context-specific or situational friends are people who we connect with meaningfully in one specific setting or situation, but the friendship doesn't transcend to other parts of your life. This might include your work friends, camp friends, yoga class buddies, gaming friends, and even your neighbors and roommates. "These friendships that are confined to certain circumstances tend to be less intimate than a more general friend who you know across different circumstances, but they do serve a role and serve a purpose such that, when we are in the setting in which we most interact with that friend, it improves our experience."

As Franco notes, work friends can be considered a type of situational friend. But they're particularly unique insofar as almost all of us spend a significant amount of time at our jobs, and the type of camaraderie and support we need when it comes to our careers and work lives is different from what we need from any other type of friend. Work friends are people we co-create with, and there's a uniquely goal-oriented and collaborative dynamic we share with them. They're also some of the few people who really understand the nitty-gritty of what we do day in and day out at our jobs, and they're uniquely poised to help us achieve professional success and fulfillment. "Work friends make us more fulfilled at work, more productive, more innovative, more likely to be retained," Franco explains.

A lifelong friend is someone who we've known for all or most of our lives. They might be a childhood friend or someone we met in high school, and because of the shared experiences as adolescents, you continue to stay connected. You might grow apart, talk less often or only around the holidays, and generally become different people with your own separate social circles, but you still maintain a warm relationship with each other and swap life updates every now and then. There's something unique about a friend who has known you through all the different stages of your life because they can see the way you've grown, changed, and overcome challenges over the years. These lifelong friends serve almost as a touchstone or barometer marking how far we've come as the years go by, and they keep us tied to our roots and our history.

As opposed to lifelong friends, life-stage friends are those people who you connect with over being in similar life stages. Whether you're both recent grads, new parents, or single and trolling the dating apps, these are the friends you feel like you're really able to relate to when it comes to what's currently going on in your life. We all need friends who truly understand where we are in our lives right now at this very moment, who are "going through it" right alongside us. Our childhood friends' and even our best friends' lives might be going at a very different pace than ours, which is why life-stage friends are so important—even if they only make sense for a certain season of our lives.

A one-sided friendship is one where one person does all the initiating, planning, supporting, and tending to the friendship, while the other just sits back and takes. Usually, the giver honestly cares more about the friendship than the other person, who may not reciprocate any of the care or enthusiasm while still accepting the kind gestures and benefits of the friendship. This is definitely a type of friend to avoid because at the end of the day, giving without ever getting anything back will eventually deplete you. Friendships should nourish both people.

"While people tend to think that clearly toxic relationships are the unhealthiest kinds, ambivalent relationships can actually be even more draining," Neo writes at mbg. "Emotionally, this type of relationship puts a strain on our psyches. We're spending considerable head space, time, and energy on these people who don't quite come through the way they say they will and who don't always bring us real joy."

While codependent friends can chip away at our well-being, there are ways to overcome codependency and move toward a healthier friendship if both people commit to the change.

A toxic friend is someone whose presence, behavior, and friendship negatively affects you and your well-being. In that sense, any of the types of friends on this list of friends to avoid can be considered toxic friendships. Aside from the qualities mentioned so far, a toxic friend might be someone who tends to stir up a lot of drama, someone who makes you feel bad about yourself (intentionally or unintentionally), or someone who constantly disrespects your boundaries and drains your energy.

A fake friend is someone who calls themselves your friend but doesn't actually behave like a friend toward you. "A quality friendship includes support, loyalty, and closeness—three things you cannot find in a fake friend," licensed marriage and family therapist Tiana Leeds, LMFT, previously told mbg. A fake friend doesn't actually look out for your well-being, isn't there for you when you need them, and generally doesn't make you feel welcomed or like you belong. In fact, they may even actively try to put you down or make you feel bad about yourself. This person is actually not a real friend, despite the fact that you might refer to each other that way.

Moreover, it's rare that one person can fulfill all our various social, emotional, and intimacy needs. "I don't think one person can fulfill all the different roles that friendships can provide," she explains. "We can often feel like we're kind of shrinking if we're only interacting with one person, even if that's our very best friend."

It's never too late to make new friends as an adult, and there are even a plethora of friend finder apps that make the process easy. So, check in with yourself and consider whether your social network feels full and well rounded or if there are a few more types of friends you could use in your corner.