Among a sample of 100,000 subjects, boredom was the reason given for infidelity by 71 percent of unfaithful men. Additionally, people married to partners who are emotionally unavailable, or have difficulty enjoying intimacy, may find that their emotional needs can be met in an extra-marital affair. Communication skills (the way in which partners share information, thoughts, and emotions by verbal and non-verbal exchange) is one area of emotional availability that impacts the likelihood of an unfaithful liaison, and correlates with a sense of belonging within the partnership structure.
Not surprisingly, the data show that couples who have fewer and or less intense positive sexual interactions are at higher risk, as are those who report low sexual satisfaction. And in this case, contextual factors, such as having friends or family members who cheat, having access to valuable alternative sex partners, and frequent, secret visits to sexually explicit websites may increase the likelihood that a lonely spouse will make the decision to engage in extra-marital sex.
Whether sociopath, narcissist, or lonely-heart, unfaithful partners are more active in the summer months. Studies show that there is as much as a 60 percent increase in extra-marital relations from May through September. So, don’t wait to diagnose him before you move to another seat in the coffee shop. In fact, just go to another coffee shop altogether.
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