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Looking For A New Valentine's Ritual? How To Pull Oracle Cards With Your Partner

Shannon Kaiser
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By Shannon Kaiser
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Shannon Kaiser is the best-selling author of 5 books on the psychology of happiness and fulfillment including The Self-Love Experiment, Adventures for Your Soul, and Joy Seeker. She has a B.A. in Journalism and Communications from the University of Oregon.
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February 13, 2022
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Valentine's Day happens just once a year, and if you are celebrating with a partner, it can be a great opportunity to get closer to them and show them how much they mean to you. Whether you're getting ready for your first Valentine's Day date, or you've been married for years, we all want to connect more deeply to our partners—and a great way to do so is with oracle card decks.

Oracle decks are divination tools that can help you connect with your true self and get more clarity on and confidence in various life situations. Use the following oracle-reading steps to use your deck to spice up your love life this Valentine's Day and beyond:

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1.

Pick a deck that resonates with both of you.

With so many unique oracle decks available, it's important to find one that's right for you and your partner. 

First, you want to set your intention for your deck. Pick a deck that will bring you support and guidance in your relationships. It doesn't have to be a deck on relationships, but the theme itself can lead to it. (For example, my Unshakable Inner Peace deck is designed to bring you peace, so if you are seeking more peace in your love life, this deck could be a great pick.) Most oracle cards are designed around a theme or key message, so find one that resonates with both of you.

2.

Set a sexy scene.

Unlike tarot card decks, which are steeped in ritual and have a lot of structure, oracle decks give you more flexibility and room for interpretation. This means they can be more fluid and organic in interpretation, leading to a more playful reading.

Before you do your reading, set the scene: You can try a fun approach to the reading by getting flirty with your partner, or asking them to sit in front of you with a candle. You could also blindfold them, which can add a layer of intrigue and suspense to the experience.

By carving out creative ways to set the scene and make the reading feel like a ritual, you'll have a date night with purpose, and this in itself will be a night worth remembering.

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3.

Ask your question.

As you align inward, have your partner ask the universe that they want an answer to. Maybe it's a situation you want more clarity around—just refrain from shame or blame questions. Instead of asking, "Why is my partner so distant?" for example, ask, "How can we bring back the passion?"

If you don't have a specific concern or question, you can always ask, "What message does the universe have for us?" The important thing is to simply be present with the feelings and emotions that come up.

4.

Use your intuition to guide you.

As you dive into the practice and use your oracle deck, pay attention to what comes up for you, including your feelings and energy. You will be intuitively guided to pick a card for your partner. Always trust the pull.

Keep asking the question (in your mind) until you intuitively feel (or hear) when it is time to stop shuffling, and pick a card. Pick that card, then use the booklet to see the full interpretation and reading. Also, pay close attention to any cards that stick out, hang out, or jump and fall out of the deck. These cards are called "jumpers" and are extra potent. They're always meant for you, as they are thought to hold the answer you need at that moment.

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5.

Consult the guidebook and your partner.

After you pick a card, you'll want to observe the image and see what feelings come over you. What elements of the design are you drawn to, curious about, or even turned off by? All of this is part of the reading. Each image is a collage of inspiration, ideas, and guidance to help direct you to your own inner knowing

Pay attention to the colors, the specific images, and the key character in each image. Ask your partner how they feel when they experience the images. As you observe together, your inner guidance will give you even more messages to assist in the reading. Use the cards to connect to each other, and explore the reading possibilities and outcome together.

The takeaway.

An oracle reading is a unique and special way to connect with your partner on a day all about love. Share what comes up in your reading, and just have fun with it! As you give each other permission to share, you grow closer by listening to each other and allowing each person to interpret the messages as they unfold.

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Shannon Kaiser
Shannon Kaiser

Shannon Kaiser is the best-selling author of 5 books on the psychology of happiness and fulfillment including The Self-Love Experiment and Adventures for Your Soul, Joy Seeker, and Unshakable Inner Peace Oracle card deck, and the forthcoming book Return to You. She has a B.A. in journalism and communications from the University of Oregon. As an international life coach, speaker, and retreat leader, she helps people awaken and align with their true selves so they can live their highest potential.

She's been named top 100 Women to Watch in wellness by mindbodygreen, alongside Cameron Diaz, Gwyneth Paltrow, Kris Carr and Gabriel Bernstein, and was listed as of the freshest voices in mental health and wellness by Chicken Soup for The Women's Soul. She's been named one of Entrepreneurs Must-Follow Instagram Accounts for Inspiration and Top Facebook Accounts for Daily Motivation by Mind Body Green.

Her website Playwiththeworld.com has been names top 75 Personal development websites and top 100 self-help websites by the institute for the Psychology of Eating. She's an international life coach and author mentor, and a full time world traveler with a home base in Portland, Oregon with her best friend, her Golden Retriever Chance, who she flew to China to Rescue.

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