Esther Perel

Psychotherapist & Author

Psychotherapist Esther Perel is recognized as one of the world’s most original and insightful voices on personal and professional relationships. She is the bestselling author of Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, translated into 26 languages. Fluent in nine of them, the Belgian native now brings her inclusive, multicultural pulse to The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity.

In a cover story, The New York Times named Perel the most important game changer on sexuality and relational health since Dr. Ruth. Her two critically acclaimed viral TED talks have reached over 16 million views in under 3 years and she has consulted on the award-winning Showtime drama, The Affair.

In addition to Perel’s 34-year private practice in New York City, she is a licensed marriage and family therapist, an AASECT certified sex therapist, a member of the American Family Therapy Academy, and of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research.

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What is your wellness philosophy?

For me, wellness is an active cultivation of human resilience — this includes one's immune system, mental health, and relational health. To maintain my own wellness, I focus on a combination of purpose and joy.

What brought you into wellness?

When I began training as a mental health professional in my 20s, I noticed that therapy was problem-centric, and not necessarily focused on a person's overall wellbeing. I knew then that I wanted to integrate all parts of my patients lives into my work with couples.

What does You. We. All. mean to you?

You is the ability to be thoughtful about others. We reminds us that we don't achieve anything alone. All implies an inclusive approach to life. No person or system exists in a vacuum. I tend to take a global and systemic view of everything.