The 9 Best Positions For Mind-Blowing Oral Sex, From 69 To Face-Sitting

People can enjoy sex in all ways, positions, and styles, and it doesn't have to include penetration. Does that mean it's still sex? 100%. Sex is anything you want the main course to be, and that includes oral sex. 

Another large perk of oral sex is it provides balance in pleasure. For example, people with clitorises engaging in penetrative sex typically have difficulty reaching orgasm, whereas a penis can experience ejaculation in much less time with fewer barriers. Because of this, Cline says sex partners can use oral sex "as the orgasmic equalizer, a metaphorical appetizer, the main course, or dessert."

Because of this, some couples explore this position by lying on their sides and facing their partner's genitals, which Cline says gives your neck a break. Or they do the 68, a variation of the 69 where your partner lies on their back as you lie on your back on top of them with your crotch in their face. From that angle, you can tease your partner with controlled movements of your genitals through pressure, rhythm and depth.

AASECT-certified and board-certified sexologist Jenni Skyler, Ph.D., LMFT, CST, says an upside of this position is "it also allows for a lot more mobility of both hands, so a spare hand can fondle the testicles or stimulate the vagina"—or partners can maximize each other's oral pleasure with internal or external sex toys for couples. 

While you lie on your stomach, spread your legs and arch your hips slightly so your partner can orally pleasure you from behind. (A pillow can help!) This oral sex position caters to people with vulvas, and you also have free range to pleasure yourself with toys or your hands at the same time. It's also great for rim jobs. Because the giver isn't arching, elevating, or extending their butt, this is a bit more comfortable than doggy style, but they can still access the same parts of the receiver's body. 

"The position is great because it provides a lot of comfort for the giver and the receiver," Cline says, adding that you can place a pillow under your hips to provide easier access to the parts you want to be stimulated. Feel free to bend your knees, keep them flat on the bed, or wrap them around your partner's head. 

This may not be the best blowjob position for the giving partner as it's not very neck-friendly, but you can easily make it one if the top partner lowers the penis into their partner's mouth. Or if the bottom partner has a penis too, the top partner can suck them off at the same time, turning this upside-down position into 69.

To make this a blowjob position, have the receiver sit at an angle and "feed" their penis into the giver's mouth to reduce any neck tension or discomfort and the risk of suffocation. 

Pro-tip: While you or your partner receive, try wearing a butt plug to maximize your pleasure!

To protect your knees or theirs, don't forget the pillow. And to keep your balance (especially as you get closer to having an orgasm), try to lean against a wall or door. 

An oral sex position that works to give blowjobs and cunnilingus, the Kivin method puts a sideways flair to the classic position. This one requires the receiving partner to lie on their back while the giver lies perpendicular to their partner's body. As the giver licks or sucks their partner's genitals, the receiver can place a leg over their neck, which opens the legs more and increases clitoral stimulation. 

You can always place a pillow under the pelvis, which she says can be helpful to lift your genitals, "creating easier access and less neck strain."

While you're pleasing your partner, don't hesitate to use your free hands to bring them added pleasure by softly tracing their breasts or nipples (nipple orgasms are a thing, and don't sleep on male nipple play!), grabbing or playing with their butt, gripping their waist, or anything you think your partner would enjoy. Because oral sex mainly just needs your mouth, you can be as flexible as you want to heighten your partner's pleasure. 

A few to consider:

Communication is key for most things in life, including sex. "With all the positions, make sure you give feedback with what you like and provide guidance about what you don't like," Cline says.

Skyler says it's a risk to assume that your partner can read your mind and understand your desires without a conversation first because it "can often lead to a miss when attempting to execute various types of stimulation." Rather than make your partner feel like they're bad at oral sex or don't know how to please, Skyler says to simply fine-tune your communication.

If you like how your partner tastes, let them know! Or if you enjoy pleasing them, feel free to let a few moans out. Receiving pleasure seems mindless, but some people might overthink how they feel or taste or if you actually like giving them head. To both quell their fears and help them relax to better enjoy oral sex, show your partner how much their tastes and smells excite you in ways that are true to you. (Here's our guide to dirty talk for some inspo.) 

For some people, feeling their partner's warm breath on their skin during sex creates increased arousal and can amplify stimulation. Whether you breathe heavily and deeply as you please their clitoris or you teasingly blow air on their skin, your partner is sure to be overrun with desire, especially if you do this after a round of foreplay. 

To deepen your connection with your partner as you give them oral sex, increase the intimacy by holding their hands or locking eyes with them. Not only does watching your partner react to your touch make sex more erotic, but these intimate moves show them how much you want to feel them beyond just your mouth. (Here are some more ways to give more passionate oral sex.) 

When you're licking, sucking, or touching a vulva, keep in mind jumping right into it can be overwhelming for a lot of people. Starting slowly with soft nibbles and licks is always recommended, and then you can alternate to a quicker pace as your partner responds more and more to your stimulation. 

Here's why: "Most people aren't aware they're infected," says Cline, "and they often have no symptoms leading to unintentionally exposing partners." The best way to avoid this scenario is to prioritize safety as a part of your pleasure. 

Oral sex is sex that's fun for everyone, but you don't have to stick to the same position or the usual methods you lean on to please your partner. Get creative with your oral sex techniques, switch up your positions, and explore what works best for the both of you.