While a low libido can be frustrating, it’s also fixable. Here are a few ways to start fixing your hormones right now:
1. Support your adrenal glands to produce more testosterone.
In order to help your adrenals, which produce the DHEA from which much of your testosterone is derived, prioritize self-care and schedule in time to truly unwind, relax, and recharge.
I also recommend exercising for your cycle. Basing your workouts on when you have the most natural testosterone and when you have less ensures you won’t put yourself into adrenal fatigue. For example, doing a bootcamp during ovulation, when you have more energy, and a yoga or Pilates class during the second half of your luteal phase, when you might be experiencing symptoms of PMS, can be helpful.
2. Bring pleasure into your everyday life.
Adding pleasure to your day in simple, nonsexual ways can truly improve your ability to feel pleasure in the bedroom.
Small steps can bring about big changes. For example, put a vase of beautiful flowers on your desk or play your favorite album during your morning commute. Indulge in organic body lotions or perfumes that make you feel sexy and beautiful, and get regular massages if you can.
You’ll start to notice a difference in how you feel about yourself, your body, and sex.
3. Take matters into your own hands and find out what you like.
It’s important to know what you like, and the only real way to understand what you like is to do your research.
Read erotica and see what turns you on, learn about your anatomy and the physiology behind feeling turned on. Once you know yourself better, don’t be shy to ask for assistance or experimentation from your partner.
No partner? No problem: literally take matters into your own hands.
4. Eat right to combat estrogen overload.
If too much estrogen is the cause of your waning sex drive, you’ll want to do everything you can nutritionally to eliminate the excess hormone from your system.
To aid your liver in detoxification, try dandelion root teas, and a milk thistle supplement to help your liver more quickly metabolize estrogen. Eating healthy proteins and getting enough fats, like olive and coconut oils, can also help improve your overall hormonal balance. But avoid soy — because it's high in phytoestrogen, it can throw off your hormonal balance and leave you feeling uninspired by your partner.
5. Reconsider the Pill.
You might think birth control is your ticket to a worry-free sex life — but the Pill could actually be compromising your libido. A 2006 study found that birth control users had four times the amount of sex-hormone-binding globulin (a substance that binds testosterone and can mute libido) than non-Pill users.
Further, in another landmark study, women on the Pill who were given a sampling of sweaty men’s T-shirts to choose from were drawn to partners whose pheromones did not genetically complement their own. Women who were not on the Pill, however, chose partners with genetic compatibility.
That suggests that quitting the Pill won’t just enhance your sex drive — it could even lead you to a better mate or improve your relationship.
Need more hormone help? My free four-day hormone detox will help you understand exactly what’s out of whack and how you can get back to balance.