How To Have Sex During Periods Safely & Comfortably

It may appear taboo, but having sex during your period can be great for your overall well-being. Today, couples are often comfier having sex than talking about it. But the truth is, sex is an opportunity to explore not only your relationship with your partner but also your relationship with yourself. Period sex is no different.

One study in the Journal of Sex Research found about half of sexually active women have sex during their periods1, so it's definitely common behavior. Test the waters if you're unsure. And if you're simply not interested in giving period sex a whirl, that's perfectly fine too. Just know that the unwritten rule that says you shouldn't have sex during your period is based on clouded assumptions and misplaced discomfort around normal female bodily functions. There's a whole spectrum of sensuality—far beyond the loop of sexual activity we're used to, waiting to be explored if you're interested.

Additionally, sperm can survive within the body for several days, meaning that if you tend to ovulate shortly after your period, you can still get pregnant from the sex you had during your period.

Menstrual blood (while completely natural and safe) is like any other bodily fluid. It may be appealing to skip the condoms and get straight to business, but sex is sex and the risks haven't gone away. 

There's also the chance that period sex will get messy. With the right precautions, such as laying down a towel beforehand, you can take your mind off the mess and really enjoy the experience. 

Period sex leaves you vulnerable to the same STIs as any other time you have sex. Your menstrual blood is by no means upping the stakes.

Your hormones fluctuate throughout the menstrual cycle3, and those fluctuations can make some people experience vaginal dryness during their period. This isn't the case for all menstruators, though. On the other hand, period blood can also be a natural lubricant during sex that makes penetration smoother and more pleasurable.

Period sex makes you more vulnerable with your partner and yourself. Most people's period experiences are generally private; no one really knows the intimate details of their period and period blood other than themselves. But period sex opens the door to allowing another person to experience your body during this time. It can expose your sensual being and might lead to other unexplored sexual areas.

All the benefits of orgasms, in general, apply to period sex, perhaps especially so. The rush of oxytocin after sex can make you feel at ease and less stressed, which might be a welcomed relief during your period.

Some of your reproductive and sexual organs may be more engorged with blood during your period, making "a woman's body more responsive," says Stockwell. On top of that, your body releases the usual endorphins it produces when you have sex. 

The length of your period depends on how thick your uterine lining is and how long it takes for your uterus to shed it all. Sex and orgasms can cause the uterine lining to slush off at an increased rate. (That's why you might have a heavy flow when you're having sex and a much slower flow for a few days after.)

Forget the usual loop of foreplay, oral, then penetrative sex. "Sex can be many things," says Wiggins. You might surprise yourself about what your likes and dislikes truly are when you take away the fear and assumptions. 

Laying down a dark-colored towel or shirt before you get intimate will keep your mind off the mess and in the moment. If you forget to throw one down, it wouldn't hurt to gain some stain removal knowledge (baking soda!).

This way, you can combine sex and cleanup. If you haven't tried shower sex, period sex is a great reason to go for it. Be careful, though; it's as slippery as it is exhilarating. 

Start a dialogue with your partner about how they feel about period sex, any concerns they might have, and also what might excite them about it. Wiggins recommends a simple question like "What forms of intimacy are OK?" to get a foundation started. Once you start having period sex, also make sure to check in during and after the experience to make sure both parties are feeling good about it. 

The stigma surrounding sex during your period is disappearing. It's becoming more and more mainstream to honor the menstrual cycle and treat it like the natural occurrence that it is. Embracing period sex is another example of the ways we're opening ourselves up to the true power of sexual wellness.