I'm A Psychologist: Here's The Simple Way I Deal With Loneliness

We are coming up on a time of year that, even in normal times, can be a very challenging and lonely time for many people. Whether you are generally alone for the holidays or your time with family is rife with conflict, the holidays may present many challenges regarding loneliness.

I have found, with myself and my clients, that becoming deeply involved in a creative endeavor can go a long way toward ameliorating loneliness. There is something about becoming deeply involved in the creative process that fills the heart and soul with joy—even when we are creating alone.

I feel very blessed that I learned to make pots on a potter's wheel over 60 years ago when I was in college. My teacher at UCLA was a world-famous potter, so I learned from the best. I have my own little pottery studio, and when I spend blissful hours throwing pots, decorating them, glazing them, and firing them, I'm rejuvenated. I also have a little painting studio, and when I have the time on weekends, I love being able to paint or pot.

I recently suggested drawing to one of my clients, and she immediately said, "I can't draw."

I suggested that she read the book Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain by Betty Edwards, or find an online course that teaches this process. Anyone can learn to draw with this method, I told her, and she might find great satisfaction in learning how to draw. 

Try tuning into your feelings to see if there is something creative you've always wanted to learn to do. Are there creative things you loved to do as a child? Do you still do them, or have you forgotten about them? Now might be a great time to resurrect whatever brought you joy when you were younger.

Creative projects can encompass many different things. You might consider painting, making collages, knitting or sewing, quilting, embroidery, photography, writing, cooking delicious and healthy food, playing a musical instrument, making jewelry and doing various other crafts, candle making, flower arranging, building things, learning to model with the various forms of clay that you can fire in your oven, wood-burning, or calligraphy. Pinterest has hundreds of ideas for creative projects.

Creating with others can also be incredibly fun. Zoom offers us a wonderful way of getting together with friends and family and finding ways of creating together.

This is for vanilla ice cream.

For chocolate ice cream, add ½ cup organic raw cacao.