9 Meaningful Things To Do For Yourself On Your Birthday

I am for sure in the former camp, and I say this having just recently celebrated my 47th birthday. I'm well into a decade where people (and especially women) begin to minimize the importance of their birthdays. And I think they're missing out. 

With each passing birthday, it becomes clear: Life moves so quickly. Without slowing down at key moments (like the day you were born!), we can so easily miss it and then wonder where it all went.

Now that I've made a case for why we all need to intentionally celebrate our birthdays, here are nine out-of-the-box things to do on your birthday:

Whether this happens on your birthday or near it, book some time to be only with you. Go for a walk, sit at a lovely cafe, and bring your journal. Reflect on where you are in your life right now and where you'd like to go. Do something you love to do—window shop, take a favorite fitness class, meander through a gallery. Make it a special date with yourself.

I love a good dreaming session at the start of a new year, but your birthday is the beginning of a new year for you. I like to reflect on the past year and then dream about what I want to experience or achieve in the coming year. Writing it down is how we begin to bring it to life.

To stay connected to your dreams and goals for the coming year, book a standing date for yourself on the date of your birthday every month (for example, I have a two-hour block on my calendar on the 20th of each month since my birthday is February 20.) Use that time to reconnect to your dreams and desires and plan your next set of actions toward them.

Instead of heavy hinting, why not give your family and friends the joy of choosing their own gifts for you and buy yourself that special gift you have your eye on? Gifting yourself something special is a way of celebrating yourself rather than waiting for that validation from someone else. It does not need to be something expensive or budget-breaking, just something that feels good to you. I personally love to buy myself a piece of jewelry or a new dress.

After you've done some self-reflection, you'll have a good sense of where you are in your life right now. What books might support you at this point in your journey? I like to visit a bookstore (extra points if it's local and independent!) as part of the date with myself. As a single mom, browsing a bookstore without someone tugging at my sleeve is extreme luxury!

Instead of waiting for others to plan a gathering for you, decide who you want to bring into your birthday celebration. Kick off this new year in your life with those that lift you up and inspire you to be your best self.

On my 40th birthday, I gave my favorite book, The Untethered Soul, along with a personalized note to five of my best girlfriends. I thanked them for the part they had played in my life up until that time, knowing that my journey wouldn't have been the same without them. Take a moment to send a note (whether handwritten or digital) to a few people who have really affected you. Be sure to tell them how they've made a difference in your life.

In our very material environment, it's easy to forget that we are, in fact, intrinsically a part of the natural world. That is why we feel a sense of calm and oneness when we spend time in it. Your birthday is the perfect time to connect to your true nature, your true essence. Being in nature also reminds us of the natural cycle of all living things (including ourselves!). Spending time in nature is also known to reduce stress levels1, allowing you to feel more present to celebrate the magic of your birthday.

On your birthday, write yourself a letter from the point of view of your future self 10 years from now. What adventures has she gone on, what experiences has she had, how has she grown? Let your future self be your inspiration and muse.

Depending on how you've experienced your birthday in the past, celebrating may come easily or could feel uncomfortable. I want to challenge you to reclaim your birthday for yourself. Celebrate the day you began your unique adventure. Celebrate how far you've come. And most importantly, celebrate where you are headed—because the best is yet to come.