Every relationship has a system. Sometimes the system emerges from love, but more often it can also come from fear. And when fear is motivating the behavior, the system becomes controlling rather than loving.
If you are not experiencing the relationship you want, it likely has to do with the fact that you and your partner are operating from fear and control rather than from love—which is why it's important to learn about the six different types of controlling relationship systems so you can enact change. Here's what you need to know about each one.