When I was stuck in indecision about whether I wanted to have kids—feeling pressured and obsessing over what everyone else wanted—I wanted someone to tell me that it was OK. That it was OK if deep down I didn’t want to be a mom. That nothing was wrong with me if that was the case.
I eventually reached that conclusion myself through life coaching, and it freed me up in such a way that I was finally able to see things clearly. I was finally able to make a decision I feel great about, which is to try to have a child with my husband. And not only that, but I realize now that I can be happy no matter what I choose. Those years of painful indecision were ultimately a gift because they helped me realize my own power in creating the life I want—one I love deeply—and now I get to help other women who find themselves in similar places.
Although your journey and the journeys of the women I coach are very personal, what I want to do here is share three reasons why it’s OK not to want to have kids, in hopes that this will help you move toward your own decision—and find peace there: