Whether you're fighting with your spouse regularly, in the midst of a friend breakup, or working up the nerve to talk to your boss about something serious, remember this: Every aspect of your life is a reflection of your mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual self. Your parents, life partner, children, family, lovers, friends, bosses, co-workers, and life experiences are all your greatest teachers. If you want to change the quality of your relationships, then you must first be willing to accept some hard truths and take full responsibility for yourself—while sometimes letting people off the hook, even when you don't want to.
Blame keeps us embedded where we are. Blame is bondage that leads nowhere and makes others responsible for how we feel and act. Further, it perpetuates the situation, causing us unnecessary stress and anxiety. Handling a complicated relationship takes a tremendous amount of skill and centeredness, and this is a learned art.
Let's begin with a simple home truth: You cannot change anyone but yourself. If you want peace and understanding in your relationships, you must be willing to take the high road. When peace, respect, and understanding becomes your ultimate goal, then the mindset with which you approach your relationships begins to change.
Here are four healthy ways to resolve conflict in difficult relationships: