Whether you’re seeking a relationship, evaluating a
less-than-fulfilling one, rebounding from a bad breakup, or working through
issues with a partner, these tips can help.
Focus on what you want.
Rather than focusing on the actions, situations and
hang-ups of another person, focus on what you want. If you're in a
relationship that feels unfulfilling, focus on the qualities that attract you
to the other person. Soon enough you'll see your relationship improve. If you're single, spend time visualizing and understanding your feelings
about what the perfect relationship looks like to you. That’s what you should
be looking for.
Look in your relationship mirror.
The people we date can become our teachers. We attract
romantic relationships that can help us grow. Almost every partner can become a
mirror, and learning to look in your relationship mirror can help save you from
years of heartache and pain. It allows you to be more accountable and stop
For example, I was once in a relationship with a
man who had extreme anger problems. Once I got honest with myself and looked in
the mirror, I recognized that I was unhappy and angry with myself for settling
and staying with someone when I knew the situation wasn't right.
Look at your own relationships — present or past — and
see how your partner mirrors an aspect of you. You can ask what bothers you
about them? Maybe they lied to you, and although you didn't lie to them, you
see that you're being dishonest in some area of your life. Learning to accept
those unhealed areas of your life is the key to a happy romance.
Trust your inner guide.
Don't waste time in mediocre relationships. If you
have to sacrifice yourself in any way to be with someone, it isn’t the right relationship
for you. Take the time to use your inner guidance system — you know, that gut
feeling that shows you the red flags. That feeling should always be trusted.
Trust yourself and walk away from any situation that doesn’t feel right.
Skip over any relationship that doesn't make your
heart sing! Your future self will
sincerely thank you!