We talk a lot about sex, yet we don’t really talk about it. We wonder whether it’s good or bad and whether we're having enough or too much—but we mostly just gloss over terms like libido and sex drive, what's behind them, and why they sometimes become a problem.
But we need to talk about sex drive and here’s why: Your libido is a marker of your health. Healthy people have healthy sex drives and a healthy sex drive is too often thought of as something that belongs only to younger men. We tend to think that it’s "normal" to not feel the same way when we're older, say in our late 30s (or even earlier), 40s, 50s, and beyond. And maybe it is "common." But it’s not healthy—and it’s certainly not optimal.