Full transparency: I might qualify for the Guinness World Record for failed relationships.
I got engaged to my college sweetheart before graduation but broke that off. Then I got married to someone totally wrong for me right out of college because I was supposed to (according to my mom). I had another engagement that was broken off, got married to the husband I eventually had kids with, and after that divorce got into several long-term relationships.
At several points during this journey, I questioned whether I was looking for a unicorn that doesn't exist. Eventually, I decided I should probably settle.
But after trying and trying, I realized I wouldn't be happy unless I found that person—or learned to be happy alone. And I met the absolute love of my life.
Now that I'm engaged to my fiancé Tim, I realize I've never actually been in love before. I know that sounds crazy, having been married and engaged multiple times, but it's true. I finally get it.
That long, challenging journey to finding the love of my life feels so worth it. Along the way to finding lasting love, I learned many lessons. Here are six of the things I learned that helped me find Tim: