We are all guilty of comparing ourselves to others. We compare ourselves to the friend with a better job than us. The friend living in a bigger home and making more money. We compare ourselves to a previous time in our life or another person who we think has it better than us.
Comparing gets us nowhere. It breeds fear and insecurity. Yet, our mind goes into compare-and-despair mode. You have the choice if you want to stay in the comparison mindset or accept that your present circumstances are good enough and exactly where you are supposed to be. Focus on choosing the latter.
Here are 10 signs you're comparing yourself to others:
1. You don't feel good enough.
We are all good enough. When we're accepting of ourselves, the mindset of not feeling good enough is distant. Living in a place of inadequacy is a sure sign that you're comparing yourself to others. Let go of the ego and practice acceptance.
2. You want more material possessions.
It can be easy to think that by acquiring more we'll feel better about ourselves and that all of our problems will go away. Yet, this is an unproductive cycle. Wherever you go, there you are. By focusing on acquiring, you are ignoring and disconnecting from your presence.
3. You're looking for something else to make you feel better.
Looking for outside validation is a sign that you are comparing. This goes back to the not good enough mindset. Nothing else beyond yourself is going to make you feel better. Focus on yourself and the connection within. That is where true freedom lies.
4. You're living in the past.
The past can keep you depressed. It can keep you living with the victim mentality. It can keep you comparing yourself to others or other times in your life. Stay in the present. It's here that infinite goodness lies and you can put forth the best version of yourself.
5. Anything seems better than your present circumstances.
The more you resist your present circumstances, the more you look for everything outside yourself to fill the void you feel inside. Nothing is better than your present circumstances. You have the ability to make the best of it.
6. You are obsessively looking or focusing on external things.
This is a sure sign that you are comparing. By doing this, you are taken out of the present moment. You are living thinking that something in the future is going to make you feel better about yourself. This is far from reality.
7. You hold anger and resentment.
Self-righteous anger can make you feel powerful and in control. In reality, it does the opposite. The more you hold onto anger and resentment, the more you're hurting yourself and others.
8. You're judgmental of others.
The more judgment you harness, the more you separate yourself from others. The more complacent you become in your life, the more you prevent yourself from valuing all you have right here and right now.
9. You lack gratitude.
Gratitude is the magic key to happiness. With the comparison mindset, you think anything beside your present circumstances is better. Gratitude is completely lost sight of. There is no spiritual or emotional growth here. Embrace gratitude today.
10. You take anger out on the ones you love the most.
When you compare, you're unhappy. You are discontent and project this onto others. The people you love and care about often bear the brunt of this. When you notice it happening, take a step back and practice gratitude. Connect with the present moment.