I’m always on the lookout for unique word combinations, but this one took me by surprise. I couldn’t imagine a more unlikely word pair than “celebrate rejection” and an even more unlikely source: an interview with Susan Sarandon.
How does one of Hollywood’s most talented leading ladies celebrate rejection? Whenever Ms. Sarandon didn’t get a role, she'd go out for dinner or buy herself an album. In leaner times, she treated herself to an avocado. But more importantly, she did not dwell on it. She had a knack for replacing the negative self-talk with positive and affirming statements such as, This means I’m now available for something else.
Having received my own share of rejection letters during the past five years, I must admit I wasn’t always able to bounce back so quickly. It took a while to develop that thick skin and move on to the next project.
Some suggestions to help you celebrate rejection:
1. Stop counting.
When you focus on the number of rejections, you can easily get discouraged and decide to stop after a certain number. Several months ago, a young writer asked me, “Did you get more than 17 rejections?” Either she had stopped querying or was considering it.
“I can’t be sure, but somewhere between 50 and 100,” I said.
Her eyes popped.
While I didn’t count, I did use a chart to keep track of my query letters. I set up a spreadsheet with the following columns and completed each row as the agents responded.