19 Articles by Sandra Bienkowski
Sandra Bienkowski
Knowing Yourself Is The Key To Beating Depression
Knowing yourself well is essential to wiggling out of depression’s grip and finding happiness.
11 Ways To Shut Down Anxiety & Depression - For Good
I tell anyone who will listen to find a good psychologist, because talk therapy can have an incredibly positive impact on your life. It could even...
7 Powerful Mantras To Help You Attract The One
In my 20s and early 30s, I used attention from men as a validation card.
Why Therapy Saved My Life (It Can Save Yours, Too)
When I was a teenager, I told my parents I wanted to see a psychologist.
8 Life-Changing Lessons I Learned From Seeing A Therapist In My 20s
The psychologist I found for talk therapy in my 20s was funny and blunt. After our sessions, I’d go home and capture his insights in a notebook. I...
How A Crappy Childhood Can Actually Be A Gift
My psychologist told me I should share what my childhood was like with more people because it's a big part of who I am. I cringed when he said that to...
The One Question That Can Change Your Life
When I was a kid, I'd give my days a grade in my diary with a brief explanation. "Today was an A day, because my parents let me have sweet cereal for...
What I Wish Every Abused Child Could Say
Kids who grow up in abusive environments with psychologically damaged parents often have similar issues to battle when they become adults. Silence can...
Life Lessons I Wish I'd Learned In My 20s
If you want to put your success on the fast track, study what has worked for people who've come before you. Find someone you admire or someone who's...
How Therapy Helped Me Come To Terms With An Abusive Childhood
When I was a kid, I lifted my mattress off my box spring to check for bombs before I went to bed each night. My psychologist told me that the bomb I...
How To Find The Right Psychologist To Help You
I am a huge advocate for psychotherapy (talk therapy) because it changed my life. Before therapy my self-image was in the dumpster. I had a journalism...
What I Wish Every Adopted Kid Knew
Ever since I can remember, I knew I was adopted. My parents read me a story about a stork delivering me to the door. I didn’t quite understand it all...
What Happened When I Tried To Find My Birth Mom
All my life, I couldn’t stand not knowing why I had been adopted. I didn’t know my background, my medical history, or if my birth mom ever thought...
Why You Really, REALLY Shouldn’t Date Someone You Want to Fix
Who doesn’t like rescuing a dog from an animal shelter? It’s a compassionate thing to do. It can save a dog’s life, and it’s an incredibly rewarding...
5 Ways To Dig Yourself Out Of Depression
It starts with setting boundaries.
This Is The Biggest Relationship Mistake You Can Make
I dedicated my twenties to making relationship mistakes. I did a little thing I call relationship overlap (it sounds better than cheating, doesn’t...
The 4 Best Lessons I Learned From Seeing A Therapist In My 20s
When I saw a psychologist for depression in my 20s, he told me I could win the hurt Olympics. My butt landed in that recliner chair across from him...
5 Signs You're With The Wrong Person
Before I met my prince of a husband, I dated this guy I can't even think about for two seconds without cringing. Clearly we weren't right for each...
9 Tips To Save Your Marriage From Being Totally Boring
I heard once that people spend more time planning their wedding than their marriage. It stuck with me because it defies logic. Why spend more time...
