19 Articles by Sandra Bienkowski

Sandra Bienkowski

Knowing Yourself Is The Key To Beating Depression

Knowing yourself well is essential to wiggling out of depression’s grip and finding happiness.

Sandra Bienkowski
March 20 2016

11 Ways To Shut Down Anxiety & Depression - For Good

I tell anyone who will listen to find a good psychologist, because talk therapy can have an incredibly positive impact on your life. It could even...

Sandra Bienkowski
March 2 2016

7 Powerful Mantras To Help You Attract The One

In my 20s and early 30s, I used attention from men as a validation card.

Sandra Bienkowski
November 23 2015

Why Therapy Saved My Life (It Can Save Yours, Too)

When I was a teenager, I told my parents I wanted to see a psychologist.

Sandra Bienkowski
November 2 2015

8 Life-Changing Lessons I Learned From Seeing A Therapist In My 20s

The psychologist I found for talk therapy in my 20s was funny and blunt. After our sessions, I’d go home and capture his insights in a notebook. I...

Sandra Bienkowski
April 7 2015

How A Crappy Childhood Can Actually Be A Gift

My psychologist told me I should share what my childhood was like with more people because it's a big part of who I am. I cringed when he said that to...

Sandra Bienkowski
February 17 2015

The One Question That Can Change Your Life

When I was a kid, I'd give my days a grade in my diary with a brief explanation. "Today was an A day, because my parents let me have sweet cereal for...

Sandra Bienkowski
February 9 2015

What I Wish Every Abused Child Could Say

Kids who grow up in abusive environments with psychologically damaged parents often have similar issues to battle when they become adults. Silence can...

Sandra Bienkowski
November 17 2014

Life Lessons I Wish I'd Learned In My 20s

If you want to put your success on the fast track, study what has worked for people who've come before you. Find someone you admire or someone who's...

Sandra Bienkowski
October 21 2014

How Therapy Helped Me Come To Terms With An Abusive Childhood

When I was a kid, I lifted my mattress off my box spring to check for bombs before I went to bed each night. My psychologist told me that the bomb I...

Sandra Bienkowski
October 6 2014

How To Find The Right Psychologist To Help You

I am a huge advocate for psychotherapy (talk therapy) because it changed my life. Before therapy my self-image was in the dumpster. I had a journalism...

Sandra Bienkowski
August 27 2014

What I Wish Every Adopted Kid Knew

Ever since I can remember, I knew I was adopted. My parents read me a story about a stork delivering me to the door. I didn’t quite understand it all...

Sandra Bienkowski
August 19 2014

What Happened When I Tried To Find My Birth Mom

All my life, I couldn’t stand not knowing why I had been adopted. I didn’t know my background, my medical history, or if my birth mom ever thought...

Sandra Bienkowski
August 12 2014

Why You Really, REALLY Shouldn’t Date Someone You Want to Fix

Who doesn’t like rescuing a dog from an animal shelter? It’s a compassionate thing to do. It can save a dog’s life, and it’s an incredibly rewarding...

Sandra Bienkowski
August 1 2014

This Is The Biggest Relationship Mistake You Can Make

I dedicated my twenties to making relationship mistakes. I did a little thing I call relationship overlap (it sounds better than cheating, doesn’t...

Sandra Bienkowski
July 5 2014

The 4 Best Lessons I Learned From Seeing A Therapist In My 20s

When I saw a psychologist for depression in my 20s, he told me I could win the hurt Olympics. My butt landed in that recliner chair across from him...

Sandra Bienkowski
June 12 2014

5 Signs You're With The Wrong Person

Before I met my prince of a husband, I dated this guy I can't even think about for two seconds without cringing. Clearly we weren't right for each...

Sandra Bienkowski
June 5 2014

9 Tips To Save Your Marriage From Being Totally Boring

I heard once that people spend more time planning their wedding than their marriage. It stuck with me because it defies logic. Why spend more time...

Sandra Bienkowski
June 1 2014