29 Articles by Kimanzi Constable

Kimanzi Constable

4 Happiness Myths That Make It Impossible To Actually BE Happy

For much of my life, happiness eluded me. I understood the idea of being happy, but I couldn’t experience it. I had a rough childhood that involved...

Kimanzi Constable
February 13 2016

6 Struggles I Had To Give Up To Be Happy

Every time I think about my childhood, I get angry. A time that should have been filled with happy moments spent learning and growing was ruined by...

Kimanzi Constable
January 13 2016

12 Signs You're Out Of The Honeymoon Phase (And How To Get Back There)

Young love — no matter how old you are — is a beautiful feeling. You feel something you can’t explain, and you want more of it. You don't even see the...

Kimanzi Constable
December 20 2015

After 16 Years With My Wife, It Still Feels Like The Honeymoon Phase. Here's Why

I met the love of my life at 17, while both of us were working at Burger King. She hated me at first — thought I was an arrogant know-it-all. Over the...

Kimanzi Constable
November 15 2015

9 Signs Your Work Is Deeply Unfulfilling

I spent most of my adult life working jobs that I hated. One of the hardest moments of my day used to be when my alarm clock went off and I got out of...

Kimanzi Constable
November 5 2015

The 20 Choices Everyone Should Make Before Turning 40

Most of the years from high school graduation to middle age are spent on things we don’t enjoy but that we think mature adults are “supposed” to do....

Kimanzi Constable
October 30 2015

How To Fall Back In Love With Yourself (And Why It’s Important!)

Life is hard, and there are days when it feels like giving up would be easier.

Kimanzi Constable
October 5 2015

3 Choices That Make The Difference Between An Ordinary Life & An Extraordinary One

For more than half my life, happiness was something I saw only in movies. The only emotion I had was bitterness. I was constantly struggling with my...

Kimanzi Constable
September 27 2015

I Lost 170 Pounds After Ditching These 5 Beliefs

There are things that we all tell ourselves that affect the actions we take. When we believe these things, we either move forward or stay in...

Kimanzi Constable
August 25 2015

7 Choices That Make Love Last

I was never a believer in "love at first sight" until I met the woman who would become my wife. Even though I met her working at Burger King, I looked...

Kimanzi Constable
August 12 2015

3 Lessons I Learned While I Was Separated From My Wife

I was the reason my wife of 14 years and I separated. I could try to convince you otherwise, and probably do a good job (I’m a writer), but I will be...

Kimanzi Constable
July 20 2015

I Was Obese, Broke & Separated From My Wife. Then I Changed My Life

One night in 2011, I got a call from the repo man telling me he was taking my car and that I needed to collect my belongings. That was the moment I...

Kimanzi Constable
June 22 2015

What My Grandfather Taught Me About How To Live, Love & Matter

My parents went through a divorce when I was young. At the time, I was young enough that everything happening went over my head. The only thing I...

Kimanzi Constable
April 20 2015

What I Wish I'd Learned About Forgiveness (Before It Was Too Late)

One of the hardest, and most important, lessons I've learned in my life is forgiveness, and I learned it after it was too late.

Kimanzi Constable
April 8 2015

I Didn't Have Money Or A Job, But I Moved To Hawaii Anyway

I recently wrote an article that I thought might inspire others to go after their dreams, to cut out fear and build a life that works for them. I quit...

Kimanzi Constable
March 19 2015

How I Finally Found The Courage To Quit My Job & Move To Hawaii

In 2010, my wife and I took a belated honeymoon to Maui, Hawaii. My mom agreed to watch our children so we could enjoy what others called "paradise."...

Kimanzi Constable
March 3 2015

9 Mantras For A Lasting Marriage

The first time I saw my wife my heart stopped. OK, not literally, but I did feel like I couldn't breathe. I was 17 years old and we were both working...

Kimanzi Constable
January 8 2015

5 Decisions To Avoid For A Regret-Free Life

Life is short, and time is the one thing we'll never get back. In our minds we understand this, but far too many of us don't live our life this way....

Kimanzi Constable
November 27 2014

How To Create Real Freedom In Your Life

In April of 2012, my father died unexpectedly at the age of 54. Upon hearing the news, I felt almost numb. He and my mother had divorced when I was...

Kimanzi Constable
November 25 2014

I’m A Man & I Hate My Body

Every morning, the first thing I do after I wake up is weigh myself. Then I scrutinize my body in the mirror. And then I cringe.

Kimanzi Constable
November 7 2014