8 Ways You Can Help Build Your Daughter's Self-Esteem & Confidence

Help your daughter have healthy self-esteem and confidence:

Help her develop a new skill or increase mastery of something to enjoy. Confidence can soar when you feel good about acquiring and mastering a new skill. See, as you increase mastery, the better you tend to feel; developing a new skill can help your daughter feel capable and unique. Identify an interest that your daughter has and help her excel at a skill related to it.

Allow your daughter to have her unique style with her hair and clothing; this can develop a fantastic footing for self-esteem and confidence. Finding an identity through one's appearance can create positive benefits for self-confidence. Remember, hair can grow, and style will change; it is OK if they don't match your preference.  

Communicate that your love isn't conditional. Regardless of her choices or level of success, let her know she is loved.

Research has identified that team sports increase confidence in girls. Sports are a fabulous avenue to build social skills, make friends, and learn skills such as teamwork and good communication. Additionally, learning how to handle losses is important for self-esteem and confidence.

You may not realize it, but your daughter is always watching your example. If she sees her mother negatively judging her own self, this can send a negative message that your daughter will internalize. Nudge your partner to watch their words as well because their words can affect a girl's confidence. Consider how your daughter interprets your behavior and comments.

Success isn't possible all of the time. Take a moment to acknowledge your daughter's effort. It's counterproductive to be critical or question how they could have done better when your child did the best they could. Asking why she thinks she got a B+ instead of an A when you saw how hard she studied can be destructive to confidence.

The ability to direct and influence your own life is the core of assertiveness. When you teach your daughter how to be assertive she will be less swayed by everyone around her. Help her share her opinion, identify and communicate her values, and increase her awareness of those who respect her opinions and values.

Encourage your daughter to try something new each year. A new activity, hobby, or extracurricular can be a little scary, but helping her work through apprehension with something new can boost her self-esteem and confidence.

You have an important role in building your daughter's confidence and self-esteem; consider this responsibility seriously. If your daughter demonstrates significant struggles with self-esteem and confidence that affect her socialization with peers or impairment in school, seek professional assistance from a therapist.